(Closed) What to do about uninvited children?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I can’t believe people have the gall to do this! You are not the first person on the Bee to say this has happened.

Call them and tell them that you are so sorry that they misunderstood, but this party is for adults only. Tell them you ‘d love to spend time with them and kiddos after the wedding (if that is the case), but that you are not having children at your wedding.

Be prepared that they will be as rude to you on the phone as they were via the invite.

Stick to your guns. It is YOUR wedding, not theirs.

Boy, people really have some nerve sometimes. Just beyond rude.

Post # 4
2634 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, you have to call them.  If you bend the rules for even one, everyone will expect it.

Post # 5
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

When this happened with us, we said we would love to see the children at the ceremony; but that, unfortunately, the reception would be for adults only.

Post # 6
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh wow – I thought I was going to be safe with listing names and “___ of two will be attending”

Apparently not. This is absolutely ridiculous!

Post # 7
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with the PP’s. You definitely have to call them. There’s no way they missed that the kids weren’t invited and they’re probably hoping you won’t call them on it.

Post # 8
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sorry to say you have to make that uncomfortable phone call.

Every. Single. Time. I see one of these posts it makes me want to scream that people can be either so dense or so rude.

Post # 10
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Funny link.  Sorry Goose about that.  Crazy!

Post # 11
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have a follow up question about this.  I have a feeling that I will have this problem too.

When you ladies call these people to tell them their darling children are not invited, what is the response you receive?

Post # 12
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just out of curiousity how old are their kids?

Post # 14
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

HAHAHA THAT IS A FUNNY LINK! Definitely call them. I dont think there is much more you can do. Tell them if its local you can try to help make arrangements for a sitter or something.. I honestly dont know how to sugar coat it.

That was just so rude. I am so glad I didnt have that happen, but you never know.. someone may just show up with a child.. people are just so ridiculous at times.



Post # 15
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@goosegg: I haven’t had to deal with this yet, but is it an option to have your mom or dad possibly deal with it?  Or your in-laws?  I have a possible person with which this might be a problem and if it happens, my gram is handling it! ;o)

Post # 16
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

omg that liink is hilarious. and horrible. and… yea. 


Definitely call them. say something like “we have so many people that we’d love to celebrate with but unfortunately due to budget and space restrictions we had to make an across-the-board rule that the reception is adults only. I’d really hate to offend anyone by making exceptions. I really hope that you can still make it!”

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