- 8 years ago
My SO and I have lived in an apartment complex for the past 7 months. The complex has a very electic mix of people, ranging from college students, small families (with young children), middle aged couples, to older individuals. We current have an end unit, on the 2nd (top) floor. We live above a woman who is probably in her fifties or sixties, and seemed nice enough when we met her as we were hauling our furniture up on move-in day. Ugh.
However, every noise we make seems to drive her crazy. In all the time we have lived here, we have both been out of the house most of the day with full-time jobs or other engagements. On an average day, we come home, cook dinner, watch a little TV or play a board game, and are usually in bed reading by 10 or 11pm. This is the same woman who called the police, concerned about a “domestic disturbance” when SO and I were laughing our heads off putting ice cubes down each others’ shirts (our heater had pooped out, and we are obviously very mature) at the ghastly hour of 8:00pm. Domestic Disturbance. That was a fun one to deal with.
Last night, SO and I were up a little later than usual considering that today is a holiday off work for us both. We were on the couch in the living room, watching stand-up comedy on my laptop, at medium volume. Sure, we laughed at some jokes, and were getting up from the couch every once in a while to top off our wine glasses, or use the restroom.
This woman banged on our door at midnight, with her arms crossed, leaning into the doorway. The first thing she did was ask why we had to be such “annoying” neighbors. She said she could hear us walk around our apartment and laugh when she was trying to sleep. I was a little tipsy, and a tad resentful about the cop call last month, so I calmly explained to her that it was impossible to float from room to room, but that we always took our shoes off at the door when entering the apartment to avoid scufing the carpet and creating loud noises for her below. I told her I was sorry we woke her, but we were simply watching a program (my laptop speakers are nothing compared to a television) with the volume at a reasonable level. I told her we would turn it down, as we were heading to bed in a few minutes. I also reminded her that, for two people in their twenties, we have never had more than one quiet guest over at a time, and have never thrown a party or get-together. I know for a fact that the tenants before us were three rowdy fraternity brothers who threw large parties every weekend and smoked in the house.
Was I too unreasonable and snarky? Should I write her a nice letter and slip it under her door to let her known that I would like to be civil and friendly? I really want to be a good, mindful neighbor, but I feel like she is being overly sensitive about “living noises”.