(Closed) What To Do About Unreasonable Neighbor’s Complaints?

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Post # 3
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You are doing nothing wrong! Seriously what a witch. If you feel compelled to write a letter you should tell her in it that you’re sorry she’s a poophead and you’re more than happy to help her find another place to live.

Post # 4
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

 Number one, you were NOT too snarky. From having experience with livng in apartments, it always seems to be the older tenants that cause the most trouble. For example, at an apartment my DH and I lived in there was this elderly single man who would sit out on a picnick table with a pen and paper and write down anyones license plate that he thought was traveling over the 15 mph parking lot speed limit. He would then call the cops and report every car. Seriously, some elders are just really bad neighbors.

 Let her know that it could be a maintenence issue. She could be hearing anything from your heater going off to the dish washer to laundry or the pipes in the walls. If she continues to knock at your door then its time to call the landlord. If this lady feels the need to constantly confront you when you feel you are doing nothing wrong then its time to bring in a 3rd party. She may think shes making you guys quiet down but reality shes harrassing you. Good luck with this! I know apartment living can really suck sometimes!!!!

Post # 5
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

How frustrating. I would leave it as is. I think that if you apologize for such a silly thing as explaining that you are in no way doing anything to be intentionally disruptive, she will continue to nag at y’all. I really don’t think you were rude at all. You can’t help that you HAVE to walk in your apartment. You are grown ups and should not have to get permission from you’re neighbor to watch TV or walk around in your apt. If you want a suggestion for making less noise when you walk around, perhaps you could get some slippers that have the foam bottoms. It seems like those would absorb some noise, but anything more than that seems truly unreasonable and impossible. Good luck! (and PS. this totally reminds me of the friends episode where the man that lives in the apt below is always hitting his ceiling with the broom because the friends are making too much noise)

Post # 6
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Psh.  You were a lot nicer than I would have been. After the reasonable explanation you gave her, the words, “you’re free to find another apartment if you find your current one so unsuitable”, would definitely have come out of my mouth, followed promptly by a closed door in her face.

Post # 7
1747 posts
Bumble bee

@izziebear:Just because she is old does not give her free will to be all in your business. You pay your rent just like she pays hers. Whatever! Live your life, I would not be walking around my apartment on egg shells.

Post # 8
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh that’s the worst thing about apartments, they don’t really have good insulation in the walls and floors.  That doesn’t give her the right to freak out on you for walking around without shoes on!  She should get some ear plugs.

Post # 9
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Normally, I get very annoyed by neighbor noise, but I don’t actually go up there unless the neighbors are being really unreasonable.  Like it does annoy me when I hear them walking around up there, and I can sometimes hear their TV, and I can hear when they close their cabinets or vaccuum, but I’m not gonna go up there and say anything if it is “reasonable” apartment noise. 

However, when my upstairs neighbor decided 7am was a perfectly good time to play COD Modern Warfare with his surround sound stereo on full blast (Yea, I got woken up by shooting noises!!)….I definitely went up there and gave him hell for it.

This lady just needs to learn that noise is part of living in an apartment.  Certainly be concious of your volume, but don’t go out of your way to be quiet for someone who is being completely unreasonable.

Post # 10
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

She sounds nutty to me.  I wouldn’t go too far trying to kiss up to her or be overly apologetic (if you really aren’t being loud) – you don’t want to give the impression you’ll play her game. 

Here’s what I would do.  Next time she knocks on your door, let her bitch at you for 20 seconds and just be like “K, thanks, we’ll take that under advisement, good night (door swings shut)”

Or just don’t answer the door.

Post # 11
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ah, the joys of living in an apartment! Live on the top floor and you are too noisy, live on the bottom, and everyone else is!

I think yo handled it fine. And I think you can forget about the cops coming again, too because they will  get sick of her. However, if they do come again, you might want to go down to her place and reminder her that she is tying up officers when someone else might actually need help!

I think this is pretty typical of apartment living, unfortunately. I’ve been in both positions. She sounds very cranky, but maybe with good reason. I’d just blow her off, honestly.

Post # 12
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@izziebear:“…it is impossible to float from room to room…” You are cracking me up here! It sounds like you were okay in what you said – not too rude, in my opinion, but definitely letting her know that she couldn’t bully you.

Which, by the way, it sounds like she is kind of a bully. Who walks up to a neighbor and says, “Why are you such annoying neighbors?” At the very least, she’s rude.

I wouldn’t give her a letter. If you do happen to see her, be pleasant like you would to anyone else, but I wouldn’t give her a letter. This may sound paranoid, but she might use it as “evidence” against you the next time she calls the cops, saying you are harrassing her.

One more thing I would do – I would send an email or speak to the manager of your apartment complex, to let him or her know there have been some issues with that neighbor. Get the jump on her, in case she’s thinking of reporting you to the apartment complex. You can just tell the apartment complex manager what’s been going on, let them know your side of it, and who knows, maybe even find out if there is another top-floor apartment that your neighbor could move into. 

Post # 13
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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Totally agree on the talking to the manager thing.

Post # 14
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

She sounds like a nightmare.  Definitely don’t write an apology because you know you have done nothing wrong and it’s not genuine. 

I would not answer the door anymore, keep doing what you’re doing, avoid her as much as possible, and smile and keep walking if you do have to bump in to her.  Let it be her problem, not yours!


Post # 15
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would talk to the manager. She may be used to no noise during the day so things seem amplified at night. 

I wouldn’t send a note, you weren’t snarky at all.

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