- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Regular poster, but new name, I don’t want it to ever get back to Fiance and disaapoint him.
I love Fiance with all my heart. I have zero doubts about him. I can’t wait to spend our life together. My issue and I guess I can live with it. I never have had an orgasm with him that I didn’t do myself.
We have been together 5 years. Before Fiance, I have dated many men including a few LTRs. I have had many many orgasms in my life. 90% of the men Ive dated have been able to stimulate me orally to orgasm. I’ve only dated a couple of men that didnt.
Fiance tries and he is frustrated that it doesn’t happen. It used to cause a lot of stress between. We have tried everything. I’ve been to a sex counsellor. Everyone seems to think I should be able to direct him. I just don’t know what to tell him. He doesn’t ever get close to a point where I can say, yes that works keep doing it.
In conversations over the years, its sounds like he has never given a woman an orgasm.
I know he feels bad about it. I feel bad that I can’t seem to instruct him how to. In general I don’t get a tingly sexual desire for him. I used in the beginning, but I think I’ve become so frustrated over this that its now just functional. I happily provide him with what he wants almost daily. Yet I might have an orgasm once a month with a vibrator.
He is completely satisfied with our sex life and only now and then says he wishes I could have an orgasm. I’ve grown to the point where his touching my breasts and private area is more of an irritant that a stimulation.
I miss that exciting feeling when a man can make me have an orgasm. I feel like I have have to live this life forever and not be satisfied. EVERYTHING else is perfect. Today, I just feel sad that I have to give up that part of my life.
Does anyone else feel like this?