What to do before TTC?

posted 5 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Take prenatals. Enjoy all the things you won’t be able to do when pregnant (oh to sleep on my back again). Promise yourself you won’t symptom-spot.

Good luck! xx

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

krm1984 :  Start looking for signs that you’re pregnant when you’re waiting to take a test eg “Oh my boobs are sore this month, my sense of smell is heightened, I’ve been feeling nauseous/tired etc”.

It tends to get people’s hopes up but often ends up being meaningless (esp as pregnancy symptoms can be cruelly similar to premenstrual symptoms).

But honestly, other than taking prenatals, there’s not much to do to prepare. It’s good to get an understanding of your cycle and how conception works  if you don’t really know (I was shockingly ignorant before my husband and I started trying), but other than that, just have lots of sex! 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

My OB/GYN said the only advice she had for me, other than starting prenatals, was to have fun and not stress out. She told me to keep eating, drinking, and living the exact same as I am now.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Enjoy having lots of unscheduled sex, eat and drink as you want and enjoy being able to sleep. 

Basically just enjoy yourself krm1984 :  

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

A good prenatal with DHA. I like Pink Stork as its vegetarian and doesn’t have fish products in it so no fishy burps.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You could start now if you like, but at least 3 months before. krm1984 :  

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Depending on the type of birth control I would consider stopping earlier than just before your wedding or just wait until after the wedding. I felt absolutely terrible my first month off birth control. Also, for some people it can take a while for their cycles to regulate once you stop bc.

krm1984 :  

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - City, State

Up your folate (not folic acid) intake, get your magnesium levels checked.

Start tracking your mentrual cycle as this will help you be able to narrow down when you ovulate which will ultimately help you calculate your due date more accurately. 

Also start thinking about your birthing places and care providers now. Research your local hospitals, birthing centers and midwives now and consider the type of care you would like to receive while pregnant, in labor, and after baby is born. It’s better to be able to take your tome and consider these things now rather then when your pregnant and on a countdown essentially. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

krm1984 :  

Sounds like you have a good plan…I was in a similiar position in 2017 so I totally get where you are at. Great idea to make a preconception appointment in July. I will give you a list of the things that I’ve run into – if this seems intense, just ignore, I’m on cycle 8 so I’ve tried it allllll: 

I would ask your Dr checks your Rubella and other vacinnations. I just heard about it after 7 months of trying and if I am no longer immune, it would require not trying for at least 1 cycle (which sounds like nothing but trust me, it feels like forever once you’re in the thick of it). So better to find out if you still have immunity NOW than when you are in the middle of trying!

I’d also ask your Dr to run a thyroid screen just to make sure yours is in optimal range. They like TSH to be between 1 and 2 for conception. So many women’s thyroid is out of whack these days. I was lucky to get diagnosed and under control before TTC since meds can take a few months to stabilize. 

And possibly a Vitamin D. I think the healthy range is over 30 but optimal for TTC is over 40. Vitamin D is another thing that so many Americans are deficient in! 

Prenatals are good. I personally would look at MegaFood, New Chapter, Vitamin Code, Best Nest… they are some of the better prenatals. You want ones that have folate in them. 

Eating clean is good. You want a lot of healthy fats and protein, veggies and whole grain carbs. So whole fat milk, grassfed meats, etc. Don’t do keto (unless you have PCOS/Dr recommended) or look to have a crazy low BMI or body fat.

Everyone is different on how they approach caffeine and alcohol. Some women say “drink til it’s pink” and carry on living their lives without changing lifestyle. Other women decide to act as if they are pregnant and cut out alcohol and caffeine to prepare their bodies for conception. It’s your choice and the studies on alcohol and caffeine are mixed. Good idea is to keep your caffeine intake to 1 cup a day or 200mg. 

Exercise is good. Crossfit, depending on the intensity, can be great. I would say if you are a gym addict who works out everyday and loves to push yourself to the point of exhaustion or injury, consider dialing it back. Or at least, if you don’t have success in the first few months. Hopefully you get your BFP immediately though. If you are interested in this topic, Anna Victoria is a youtube fitness person who is struggling w infertility and she explains how the body responds to overtraining. (This is again one of those things that women are mixed on, I don’t think there is solid evidence either way)

Start charting your cycles once you come off BCP, *after the wedding*. Some people it takes months for your cycles (period & ovulation) to return to normal. Others don’t skip a beat. You won’t know which one you are until you go off of it. Unfortunately you won’t get an accurate picture of when you ovulate while on the pill b/c suppresses it. But it might help to download a period tracker app like Clue or Fertility Friend just to see what your period looks like symptom wise, length wise: how long, you spot, heavy periods, long periods, clotting, etc

Standard Dr advice is to have sex starting around day 10 of your cycle, every other day until day 20. This is assuming you ovulate around CD14 which most women don’t. I personally ovulate around CD12 so I start OPKs and sex around CD8. There’s a Sperm Meet Eggs plan that is a little more aggressive than everyother day, if you and your fiance are up for that! Some woman swear by lifting their legs/hips after sex to help gravity direct sperm. lol

You want to pay attention to your cervical mucous. The fertile cervical mucous looks like Egg Whites (hence EWCM = Egg White Cervical Mucous) and should be kind of stretchy. If you see that, you will likely ovulate immediately or within a few days – every woman is different, but it’s a good indicator of impending ovulation. And it is sperm friendly so helps the swimmers get to the egg 🙂 If you don’t notice this type of CM, you can try REALLY hydrating before ovulation… drinking pure organic grapefruit juice… drinking green tea… or taking Guafanesin. Also, there are TTC friendly lubricants like PreSeed and ConceivePlus that try to mimic EWCM, lots of women have luck using those.

You could also start using OPKs when you come off the pill to see if you are getting an LH surge. You can buy cheap OPKs and HPTs on Amazon. Easy at Home sells bundles and also has an app that will help you track and compare how dark the OPK lines are. Some people have a ton of luck with Clearblue OPKs but they are really expensive.

Hope some of this helps whenever you get ready to try. Have fun wedding planning! 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

krm1984 :  Hahaha, I love that. I feel so bad to see some of the Facebook groups I’m in where women describe every single PMS symptom and then ask “could I be pregnant?”. Well, of course you could be, because PMS and pregnancy symptoms are similiar.

In their defense though, I think we all have this heightened awareness to our bodies when TTC so we THINK your boobs are way more tender or we’re feeling some weird “pinch” in your ovary area… but really, it probably happens every month, we just didn’t notice it until we were waiting for a BFP. I was definitely guilty of this the first month or two! 

I would also ask the OP to promise not to test before her period. I can’t desribe how sad I feel for woman who test at 10DPO and then say “well, it was negative, but did anyone get a BFP after getting a negative at 10DPO??” like, double disappointment. Just don’t do it to yourself 🙁

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