(Closed) What to do? Bridesmaid opasses away 5 wks bfore wedding

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MeganJ:  OMG I’m SO sorry that this happened to you.  I think having a picture of her with a candle is a nice way to remember her, maybe a moment of silence or playing one of her favorite songs and dedicating it to her?  What sorts of things did she like that you may be able to incorporate?  Did she ever give you anything that maybe you can incorporate into your wedding attire?  Again, sorry for your loss.  🙁

Post # 4
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MeganJ:  That is so devastating.  I’m sorry for your loss!

I would leave a space for her where she would stand and I would have the guy walk down alone.  Perhaps you and Fiance could light a candle for her at the altar?  Maybe have a picture and the bouquet somehwere else in the ceremony space and transfer it to the reception site?

I think it may be asking a lot of the groomsman to light a candle, especially if he wasn’t as close to her. 

Post # 6
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m very sorry. 🙁

I know that you’re trying to honor her memory with the bouquet/candle at the head table, but honestly, I think it’s a little too sad for the wedding. Maybe at another table, somewhere in the reception? Or carry her photo in a charm, attached to your bouquet?

If you’re having programs, you can do something like this:


We’d like to thank our family for all their love and support which made us who we are, and brought us to this special day.

…Our friends, with whom we experience life’s joys, and whom we hope will be a part of our lives throughout the years to come.

…And those whose memory we forever preserve in our hearts:

(list of names- I had our grandparents and a friend who passed listed)”



Post # 7
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So sorry for your loss, OP. I like the idea of the groomsman walking alone with some sort of token of remembrance. Maybe a rose?

Post # 9
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry for your loss.

Post # 11
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MeganJ:  When you go to her Mom’s, you could see if she had a special pin or necklace that you could pin to your bouquet.


Also, you could cite anything you do for her in the program to fill in guests who may be confused.

Post # 12
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m very sorry for your loss.   I can’t imagine how difficult this must be

Post # 14
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

So sorry to hear about your friends’ passing.  I’m sure you are brokenhearted.  Could you possibly have a momento of some sort attached to your bouquet in her memory?  I had one of my crosses of my Grandmother’s who had passed.  It was so nice to see throughout the day. (sorry pic is huge)


Edit:  Looks like Milksmom was thinking the same thing as I did. 

Post # 15
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so terribly sorry. I love how you’re going to honor her in some sort of way.

Post # 16
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss.  I cannot even imagine the pain you must be going through.  

I think the PPs have some wonderful suggestions, I’d definitely honor her in your program. 

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