(Closed) What to do during the gap

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
35 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’d check with her and see if she’s have a receiving line at the ceremony. If so, that’d take a huge chunk out. You’re looking at 3:30-4:00 for everyone to be out of there and then it’s 4:25 when people arrive to cocktail hour and many venues are OK with people showing up. they just don’t start serving till 5.

Your Future Sister-In-Law may be trying to coordinate pictures afterwards which requires a bit of a break in between. If I were you I’d just ask her what she suggests for people to do in between. Oftentimes in the wedding invitation suite the bride and groom will give suggestions of what to do in between ceremony and reception. I think if she does that it at least helps out her guests.

Is the hotel they are recommending far from the reception venue? It would be helpful if it was close.

Post # 7
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We will be having about a 2 hour gap between end of ceremony and start of reception.  People will have the option to go back to my parents house or his parents house but most will probably just go home inbetween.  I don’t think you really need to bring it up to her, I’m sure she just assumes people will find something to do on their own but you can always suggest that maybe she can offer up someone’s house with light refreshments inbetween.

Post # 8
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@PinkAndPearls2013:  I’m not actually Catholic, so bear with me, but I think there are only certain times they will let you do the mass. They have to plan the ceremony around the pre-existing church/clergy schedule. So Catholic ceremonies usually start a lot earlier than, say, Baptist ceremonies, and it’s such a usual part of the day that it’s earned the name “Catholic gap”.

TL;DR: There is probably not a whole lot she can do about it, so it’s most likely pointless to bring it up.

Post # 10
35 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ah yes. I’m haing a Catholic wedding too. I work for the Archdiocese and went to Catholic High school so I have been to a lot of Catholic weddings. Ours will be the first I know of that will have a ceremony time at 4pm and everyone has asked HOW we got that to happen (so we’re all used to the gap–even non catholic weddings here in st. lou have the gap).

We are getting married in the chapel at work which is not part of a normal parish so it does not conflict with any other Mass times. Any bride and groom wanting to get married MUST work within the Mass times of the parish. Your SIL may be running into that issue. If that is the case, she has no say.

Knowing that it’s a Catholic ceremony, I’d have to agree with @effietrinket and say it’s probably pointless to bring it up. You don’t want to make her feel badly or stress over something she has no control over.

If you’d like to say something perhaps you can ask, as previously stated, if she has any plans for in between and if not you can coordinate something for her (this could be a simple task: typing of mini cards with an address to a pub or something and anyone who is out of town can join you there). So then it comes across as being helpful rather than just adding more stress to her plate.

Post # 12
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PinkAndPearls2013:  i feel like a lot of weddings have a big gap in between, maybe suggests that she puts together a welcome bag for all out of town guests with suggests of what to do.

we were going to do this for my wedding because 99% of guests are traveling here, but we decided to do our ceremony and reception at the same place!

Post # 13
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Every wedding I’ve ever been to has a big gap between ceremony and reception so this has never been a big deal to me. I think people are grown ups and can figure out how to kill time for 2-3 hours. Often, I’ll go for drinks/appies with friends or family from the wedding.

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