(Closed) What to do? Elope? small wedding? idk!?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I haven’t read the comments yet, so I”m sorry if this has been resolved already or if I’m repeating someone else’s comments. 🙂

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charliesangel09:  Only you can decide. I know, that’s a crappy answer. But in reality, you’ll have to decide if it’s worth having it just be yourself and your husband, or if it’s worth the headache trying to pick and choose who to invite on a destination wedding – and worry about either having too many people that it spirals out of control or hurting people’s feelings for not inviting them.

Without knowing how big your family is, could you simply invite immediate family and then one person for you (maid of honor) and one person for your husband to be best man? Would that keep it small enough? Then, as you mentioned, there’s the issue of people being there on your honeymoon. Plus, would everyone be able to go – I had some friends having a destination wedding in Hawaii and nobody could afford to go – even with trying to book it well in advance. It was just so pricey.

I eloped, so I’m a huge advocate of having a wedding day be simply about the two people getting married. 😉

If I was in your situation, I’d probably elope. Or, have a small wedding at home and then just the two of you go to Hawaii.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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charliesangel09:  If you really want a wedding though I suggest. Write everything down that you  and your fiance want in a wedding. How many guest? what kind of centerpieces do you want? Flower ones are way more expennsive than non floral ones. What kind of dj, cake or cup cakes, candy buffet or no candy buffet. You know stuff like that. If you are on a budget getting married off season helps with lower cost. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

If you want something small an aren’t set on Hawaii, I would do a destination wedding but with an all inclusive resort.  We are planning a Hawaii wedding at the moment and it is A LOT more work than I thought it would be.  But we picked Hawaii becuase it is half way for both our families (I’m American marrying an Aussie!)  It’s just what you want…if your day so invite who you want and do what you want!  =)

Post # 20
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Busy bee

It doesn’t sound like a big traditional wedding has anything to do with what you want, so that’s out. You don’t want to drag your family into spending a ton of money or to be in a situation where you feel like they’re all on your honeymoon with you, so a destination wedding is out.

What if you just have a very small ceremony with immediate family followed by a restaurant outing or a cake and punch thing at someone’s house, and then you and your new husband can go on the honeymoon you want? Then you get to have your family there but you don’t have to plan much of anything. If you do that then all you have to do is define what your boundaries are and stick to what’s actually important. That’s what I would tell myself if I had to do it again– I went through a similar period of waffling about what kind of wedding I wanted, and in my case I kept imagining the small/cheap/easy thing I wanted spiraling out of control (reading this website didn’t help with that because it makes you think you NEED all these bells and whistles, and you NEED to do things a certain way but you don’t!). I could have saved myself a lot of stress because once everything was over I no longer cared.

Post # 21
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Helper bee

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DancinDarlin:  I do  NOT know why this simple and workabel solution finds  no  favour with so many people . Yes , the exotic  destination thing is great , but does everyone have to do it with you !

Post # 23
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Helper bee

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DancinDarlin:  I thought  it was you  who suggested this –   a wedding in town and a destination honeymoon. I was agreeing  with you…

Maybe it was charliesangel said it.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

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sema4dogz:  Oh! Yes I did, I just was unclear on the wording of your comment. However OP said this would not work because she had always envisioned a tropical beach wedding.

 

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