Post # 1
One of my best friends insists that I must have a bachelorette party and a bridal shower. This is fine with me but the typical bachelorette party is definitely not in my age range, seriously has no appeal what-so-ever nor does it for any of my friends (most of whom are married already and half of those have kids to take care of). So, what to do? We have been putting our heads together trying to decide what would be a good fun experience for all. There is the spa idea but I am afraid we would not get enough together time to chat and bond. There is the lunch at a winery idea (although a few will be pregnant but that’s okay). I’m sure there are many other ideas…I just don’t know. Any ideas?
Post # 3
I know one idea that my BM’s are thinking about is going to a local ‘tourist spot’ (so we have Niagara Falls) and just hanging out. Maybe splurge on a good meal, check out the local spots, and take some ‘touristy’ pictures.
Post # 4
What about brunch and a mani/pedi type thing?
Or you could hire a masseur to come to someone’s home and just hang out together
You could get together at someone’s house for appetizers and pre-dinner drinks and then go have a nice dinner somewhere.
Think about the types of activities YOU really enjoy and then weave it around your friends. I know for my friends with kids doing something either shorter or in the afternoon is sometimes easier.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
What about a nice brunch and then paint your own pottery? I also like the brunch and mani/pedis. You can always do an old fashioned game night.
Post # 6
I hate the whole getting trashed and going to party in town idea… so my Maid/Matron of Honor is organising a hotel room where we are having a PJ party, doing our nails and drinking wine (and grape juice for the preggy ones!)
Post # 7
My wedding party threw me a shower at my aunt’s house. It was a very typical luncheon event (was supposed to be a pool party, but it was cool and rainy all day). Then they took me out for drinks in the evening and a “sleepover” my aunt’s. Certainly not a wild “bachelorette party” (we joked about how we were all asleep by midnight) but a nice chance to connect with close friends before the busy wedding weekend.
I might’ve passed on either/both events if I were an encore bride, but as a first-timer, it was nice to have the experience.
Post # 8
I love love love the idea of going to a winery, its usually so pretty and not everyone has to drink but you can if you want. I always have a good time at wineries!
Post # 9
How pregnant are they? Would you want to go camping in a lovely area? That can be really fun.
Post # 10
My people are not generally the camping types (except one who is about 6 months pregnant about now). Due to the children many have I think a sleepover is out but I forsee many a happy late night before the wedding with my sister coming from Germany and old friends. I am leaning towards the winery for a lunch, maybe we could get a limo and bond on the way up and back and those that would need to leave earlier could meet us there. I am a first timer too so I really would like to have something I think it is really special.
Your ideas are great, keep ’em coming and thank you so much for the help.
Post # 11
I also did not want a typical bachelorette party or bridal shower. (I’m discouraging wedding gifts and did not register for “stuff” – only a honeymoon, and a couple of charities to receive donations in lieu of gifts.)
Instead, I and a dozen of my girlfriends have reserved three suites at a small, charming hotel near the beach with a tiki bar and pool (we live in Florida) where we can throw our own intimate party. Everyone is bringing an appetizer and drinks of choice, since the tiki bar only serves wine and beer. The hotel has a reggae performer on Saturday nights, also. Most of my friends have kids, so they appreciate the night away.
Later in the evening, we may decide walk a couple of blocks to catch some local entertainment (live music), or we may just stay at the hotel tiki bar all night. The next morning, we’ll go for brunch and Bloody Marys before heading home.
A few friends said they really wanted to do a shower for me, so I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that if they want to combine this with a “lingerie/kinky gifts shower,” that would be fine, but also not necessary.
Post # 12
How do you do a game night?
Post # 13
For my sister’s shower, we painted pottery. And a lot of those places will let you bring your own drinks/snacks. For another friend we went to a shop where we designed our own purses. Both were a lot of fun and we ended up with a keepsake to remember the day!