Post # 1
Ok, so I’ve stalked Weddingbee for a long time, so I finally decided to jump in and do a post. I’ve come to a point where I just can’t make a decision, and I need help. When I first got engaged, I had a diamond ring. It was small, so I knew that I would want to upgrade soon. Now that we’ve been married a year, I’ve been looking at rings. But the more I researched diamonds, the more I felt that they weren’t right for me, politically speaking. I love the way they look, but I just wouldn’t feel right buying one anymore (nothing against girls who love theirs, though!). I looked into conflict-free diamonds, but I’m just not really sold on them. So, I looked into Moissanite, but they just looked too sparkly for me, personally. I’ve looked for several months at different options for clear/white stones, and I ended up buying a White Sapphire the other day:
But now, looking at it, it just doesn’t seem to sparkle like I want. I LOVE the setting, though. But I could only get it in Sterling Silver, and I really wanted White Gold or Platinum. I’ve been debating about returning it, but idk if I’ll ever find anything to make me happy. So, what should I do? I don’t really want a diamond or Moissy, but the Sapphire doesn’t make me completely happy either. Should I just suck it up and keep this one? Will I ever find a stone I like!? My husband just wants me to shut up and make a decision! lol
Post # 3
If you’re often indecisive and change your mind, maybe you should look into high quality CZ like Asha or Wink CZ. The stone will last years, it will sparkle like a diamond when cut correctly, and you can try out different settings or cuts when it’s time to replace the stone every several years.
On the other hand, if you want a forever setting, I wouldn’t get too attached to the sterling silver one. If you also want a forever stone, I’m not sure anything will come close to lasting nearly as long as the options you’ve already ruled out, so you may have to compromise…
Post # 4
Conflict free and Old Mine/Old Euro Cut vintage stones are really not something to sweat if you love real Carbon Gems. Diamonds are sparkly because they have a trichroic refractive index that shines three colors out from the mirror like facets. Sapphires don’t have that refraction, so you only get light passing through clear chorundom or color saturation from colored sapphires.
I wouldn’t feel bad getting a diamond. Its just carbon, and if its from a vintage ring that pre-dates conflict diamonds, what on earth would you be worried about?
I’d say get the real deal. Do an honest upgrade and invest your money rather than throwing it away. Silver will blacken and tarnish, and the shine of the stones will not improve over time if its something you really want. This ring from Good Old Gold is one of my favorites and they used an Old European cut center. Really pretty!
Post # 5
what about a lab created diamond?
Post # 6
@puppiekisses: I LOVE that ring from GOG! Sigh.
I have an Asha and a real diamond and honestly, the Asha is so much prettier than my real diamond! It is in a real setting to (not a silver one) and no one has ever questioned whether or not it is real.
A white sapphire is never going to give you the sparkle factor that a diamond or moissy is. The Asha is really the closest thing to looking like a real diamond IMO.
Post # 7
Return this white sapphire ring. It’s obvious you dont really care for it, its just going to sit in the jewelry box and not be worn.
Keep shopping around. You don’t HAVE to buy a ring today. Maybe the ring of your dreams is a tad out of budget– then start saving so you can BUY the ring you really really want to wear.
This is a piece of jewelry you will wear for the rest of your life, so it should be absolutely perfect. (I’m not saying you have to spend loads of money on a great ring, but it should be a ring you adore and love seeing on your finger.)
Post # 8
If you like the setting, just have a jeweler swap the stone for you. You could put a gorgeous cz in there. I saw your setting in person this weekend and it’s gorgeous!!! I was drooling. I actually didn’t realize it was white sapphire. I love it!
Post # 9
No, don’t keep something you are not happy with.
Post # 10
@mypinkshoes: I hadn’t even thought of that! I’ll look into lab-created.
Post # 11
That is such a pretty setting! Maybe if you scour the stores/internet you will find it in gold..or you coud have a jeweler recreate it for you in gold. You could look into nice CZ’s, like Wink CZ or Ashas, in about 2 years the Amora Gem should be available, that may be right up your alley, maybe get the setting you love now with a CZ and upgrade to the Amora Gem when it is released,
Also, if you feel diamonds aren’t for you, don’t let anyone shame you into changing your mind, there is absolutly nothing wrong with simulants/gemstones in an ering!
Good luck, hope you find “the one!”
Post # 12
Based on your preferences and what you say don’t like, I think you should have a jeweler remake that ring in white gold or platinum and lab diamonds.
White sapphires are known to be milky, but the cut on your’s isn’t helping either. I’ve seen some round (brillant? don’t know) cut sapphires that sparkle like crazy.
Post # 13
@mrsmay07: I could get it redone in Gold…I’m thinking part of the reason I’m hesitant about it IS that it’s silver. Can a jeweler recreate a setting exactly, or will the original company care? I don’t really know anything about creating a setting…and yes, I felt like when I first got the ring, a few people I told that it was a sapphire judged me that I didn’t want a diamond. I wasn’t really expecting it, because why does anyone care? But some people do, apparently.
Post # 14
@CaptainSpaulding: I thought the cut might be it, too. But I just don’t like the look of round center stones. I guess I’m either going to have to change cuts or be happy with less sparkle if I stay with a sapphire.
Post # 15
@MrsAL2012: I don’t think there would e any issue recreating it in gold, you and the jewler may want to make teeny changes, to make it your own, but I have heard of people getting exact replicas of their silver rings made in gold. I thnk it would be worth it to talk to some jewlers and see what they say. I hear you about people being judgemental about your stone choice, it really boggles my mind that someone would care about a ring that is not their own.
Post # 16
I would look into Asha CZ – it sparkles like a diamond, but isn’t one so you don’t have the political/financial issues you have. I would also wait and save up for what you really want – a white gold or platinum setting.