(Closed) What to do?! HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, she’s probably unaware of the responsibilities.  She also isn’t of the legal drinking age to organize a big bachelorette thing (I assume by saying hen’s night, you’re in Canada…isn’t the drinking age 19 there?  or is it 18?).  You admit she doesn’t have the financial ability to undertake all of this. 

I think you should probably ignore it, unless the Bridesmaid or Best Man says something to you about it.  I’d definitely get an extra special thank you gift for the Bridesmaid or Best Man who did all the work, but I don’t think making a big deal out of it is going to fix anything.  It’s gong to make her feel bad, but not change her age or financial situation. 

Ask her if she’s comfortable making a speech, and if she isn’t you could ask the other Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Or heck, you could have them all make speeches! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just let it go- as long as the group as a whole is taking care of planning the hens night etc, and will be there at the wedding I don’t think its a big deal.  I had my 16 year old niece as my “MOH” and my sisters and Bridesmaid or Best Man, but my sister obviously planned my shower etc.  As long as everyone is happy and enjoying the wedding planning process, don’t get hung up on who has what titile.  

As for the toast- if shes younger she may not be comfortable speaking in front of all those guests, especially giving a toast she has to come up with.  You might see is she’d be happier announcing you and Fiance when you enter the reception, or something similiar and ask one of the Bridesmaid or Best Man to take care of the toast.  With the age issue I don’t think anyone would find it strange if she doesn’t give a toast.  

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