- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Ok so long story short, One of the girls Im asking to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man has been my friend for 15 years, we lived together for 5, and have been through everything together, and she lives in my hometown. She would have to fly to be at my wedding, plus hotel (I have to get a hotel too as it is in my FIs hometown where we dont live).
So she had a really hard year, and finally met a great guy and they just bought a house last week, and she had to get a new car because her old one was falling apart. My wedding is kind of rushed, we have 4 months to plan it from the start. So I asked her to be in the wedding, and she said she a little broke, but she would talk to her man (who was out to sea, hes in the navy) when he got back.
So anyway hes back, and she said shed let me know. I did tell her that he doesnt HAVE to go, but she wants him to.
So anyway, I am wanting to tell her that just her come if they cant afford it. I figure it will cost $400 for her flight and one night in hotel (The night before the wedding we will stay in my room, and Fiance will stay at his brothers.) So IF she cant afford that I want to pay half. I really want her there, she is really important to me. She was there when me and Fiance met, she was there when my son was born, shes like a sister to me.
The problem is, that we really cant afford it (I mean we can just barely, but I would be willing to cut things from the wedding to have her there). AND my parents and my Fiance thing its stupid, and “if she just bought a house, she can afford it” and that we shouldnt pay for her to come, if she wont then she doesnt come. But that makes me sad…I want her there.
What do you think? What would you ladies do? Help pay for her, or not bother having her there? Especially when Fiance doesnt want to pay for her to come.