What to do if not all bridesmaids can attend bachelorette?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
Hostess
2882 posts
Sugar bee

It‘s a destination bachelorette, you surely didn’t epect to have 100% participation? Proceed as planned, be grateful most of your friends are able to go, and enjoy yourself.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

What to do? You enjoy your bachelorette with those who can make it. A destination bachelorette (for bridesmaids who are presumably already traveling for your wedding this year) is a big ask. 

Did your bridesmaids get together and make these plans on their own? Because it sure sounds like you’ve had a bit too much of a hand in what the bachelorette party will be. The bride shouldn’t throw her own party.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You go with the plan that most people can make. The odds of everyone making it is slim to none, people are busy!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@ tiffanylynn114   Just go for it! I had a similar situation as you – bridesmaids and myself all scattered across the country, so we picked a location that was easy to fly into where one girl already lived (she hosted us). One of my girls couldn’t make it because she’s a doctor doing her residency and her time off is extremely limited. No big deal. When your bridal party isn’t local, it’s just unrealistic to expect that everyone can make it to your bachelorette. As long as they can come to the wedding you’re good!

Post # 6
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Worker bee

Just go and enjoy it.  I wouldn’t say anything or be upset about it.  I recently traveled 9 hours for a friend’s bachelorette party, and now that it is my turn she is not coming to my local bachelorette party.  I was a little hurt but realized it is best to just move on and be grateful for those who are attending.  Focus on the positive – you will have a great time!

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