Post # 1
So I need some advice for my bachelorette weekend. First let me start by saying my bridesmaids are all over the place I’m in Tennessee, and others are North Carolina, Texas, California, Nevada and Washington state. Only two bridesmaids live near each other. Bach is set for July, we wanted to give plenty of time between my September wedding and the Bach because no matter where we plan it we would all have to travel a little bit. The weekend we chose all but 1 could go, but her job only allows 4 weekends off a year as she works for nascar and none of those dates would work for all. We originally had it planned in California, but plans fell through as far as a place to stay and now the hotel would cost about 1100 for a two night stay. I think that’s just crazy. So 3/6 had the idea of going to Vegas. Flights are super cheap, actually 150 cheaper for me to go and we can use my time share that will cost nothing for anyone. After announcing the change I had one more drop out but she seemed fine with the original plans. She does have a baby that will only be about 8 months at the time and she says she can’t be away from her for that long. But it’s the same amount of time and she still has to travel. I’m ok with her not going I totally understand it. I really wanted to include everyone but it’s just not working out. Should I change it again or just go for it? Those that are going are my closest friends and those that are not are my cousins. HELPPPPPP
Post # 2
It‘s a destination bachelorette, you surely didn’t epect to have 100% participation? Proceed as planned, be grateful most of your friends are able to go, and enjoy yourself.
Post # 3
What to do? You enjoy your bachelorette with those who can make it. A destination bachelorette (for bridesmaids who are presumably already traveling for your wedding this year) is a big ask.
Did your bridesmaids get together and make these plans on their own? Because it sure sounds like you’ve had a bit too much of a hand in what the bachelorette party will be. The bride shouldn’t throw her own party.
Post # 4
You go with the plan that most people can make. The odds of everyone making it is slim to none, people are busy!
Post # 5
Just go for it! I had a similar situation as you – bridesmaids and myself all scattered across the country, so we picked a location that was easy to fly into where one girl already lived (she hosted us). One of my girls couldn’t make it because she’s a doctor doing her residency and her time off is extremely limited. No big deal. When your bridal party isn’t local, it’s just unrealistic to expect that everyone can make it to your bachelorette. As long as they can come to the wedding you’re good!
Post # 6
Just go and enjoy it. I wouldn’t say anything or be upset about it. I recently traveled 9 hours for a friend’s bachelorette party, and now that it is my turn she is not coming to my local bachelorette party. I was a little hurt but realized it is best to just move on and be grateful for those who are attending. Focus on the positive – you will have a great time!