Post # 1
We are just over 50 days until the big day and my Fiance and I are already receiving wedding gifts in the mail. Do we send out a thank you card now, or waiy until after the wedding (where a couple of the people who have sent gifts have rsvp’d to be there)? I don’t want to be rude. What to do??
Post # 3
You can do either – what I have been doing is send the thank you ASAP, and keep track on a spreadsheet of what we get, who it’s from, when I sent the thank you. That way I know I didn’t miss anyone.
The biggest benefit of sending them as you receive gifts is that you will have fewer to do after the wedding (when you’ll have a bunch all at once). Spreads them out a bit!
Post # 4
Send them now – those people will want to know the packages arrived safely, and you won’t have so many to do later. Win-win.
Post # 5
Do it now to check it off the list!
Post # 6
I’d send them out now. That way people know that you received them.
If you don’t need to use them, keep them in their boxes if you can. That way if you get duplicates you can make the appropriate returns.
Post # 7
I’d do it now to get it off your list and you won’t have to worry about it later!
Post # 8
Either way is fine. If you have the time to do them now, then go ahead and get them out of the way. I will say, though, that it is nice writing them after the wedding because 1) you’re a lot less time-crunched when all the planning is over, and 2) it’s nice to be able to say “thank you so much for being a part of our special day” in addition to thanking them for the gift. Of course you can also say, ahead of the wedding, that you look forward to seeing them there.
Post # 9
I’d say do it now – easier to keep track of.
If you do wait until after the wedding, make sure that you write the cards as you get the gifts – itll save you so much time later!
Post # 10
I’d do it now so guests don’t worry about whether the gift arrived AND to save yourself the note-writing later.
Post # 11
We’ve been sending thank you notes as soon as we receive the gift, even though it’s before the wedding. I know that when I give gifts I just want to know that people have received it!
I think the official etiquette thing to do is to send the thank you right away, but not actually use anything till after the wedding…
Post # 12
As the pp I would send them out now. It will be nice for them to know you received the gift, and it will be less work for you after the wedding!
Post # 13
sending thank yous as they come means you have way fewer thank yous to write after the wedding! it made it so much more manageable for me. i’m only 3 weeks past our wedding, and have already gotten all my notes out because i was able to write so many beforehand.
Post # 14
I would also say to do it now! I know that when I send a gift early, I’m ALWAYS wondering if the couple received it. Since it’s 50 days out, you should go ahead and send it before you get all busy with final logistics things.
Post # 15
Thanks so much ladies! I plan to head out today to pick out my thank you cards so I can get these notes out sooner than later!
You’ve all been so helpful! I so appreciate it!