Post # 1
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3 posts
Wannabee
hi there,
i need help!
i had my (now) husband write down the names of who gave us what. the checks are where things got confusing, as we’d already deposited them by the time i noticed the issue.
in particular, there are 3 people who i would be surprised if they didnt give a gift, but there is no record.
should i send a card saying “thank you for your generous gift” or a thank you card just profusely thanking them for coming. i don’t want to embarass anyone who may not have been able to afford a gift, but want to thank people if they did..
thanks!
Post # 3
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
Maybe sending a thank you card and thanking them for “everything”? That way it could cover the gift or if they didn’t give a gift, then they’ll know that you really appreciated them coming to the wedding!
Post # 4
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151 posts
Blushing bee
I would just send a thank you for coming. They might have forgotten to bring a gift to the wedding and may still send one. They’d probably think it was weird if you thanked them for their gift when they didn’t give you one!
Post # 5
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4485 posts
Honey bee
Send a card thanking them for attending and sharing in your day. That’s really all you can do. Contrary to popular belief, even guests who didn’t give anything still deserve a thank you note.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
If you are not sure who gave you a check, you can look this up with your bank even though you already deposited them. With my bank, I can go to the online checking page and there is a way to view the front of each check you deposited.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
You can do a little detective work if you think that you are missing a gift. I know of a few friends who discovered things were stolen at their wedding reception. (One friend actually had her bouquet stolen as well as cards.) You can have your in laws or parents ask the friends perhaps suggesting that gift tags may have been misplaced or put out of sequence of the gift. (I’m suggesting having your parents ask because I’m assuming that these are family friends that you have known for a lifetime, which is part of the reason you know that they would be apt to get you a gift. You could always do this yourself as well…. but giving them a buffer person may help them and you feel comfortable!