Post # 76
I agree with you, our living situation is extremely AWEFUL, you have no idea how much I want to move out, it is just sooo crowded, my parents are great, they help us a lot, but still, it is time for us to have our own space, specially for our baby, she is growing up everyday, she is going to need her own room soon, it is very complicated.
In reference to the grandma situation, we need to sit down and talk very much, and compromise, it is true, we have comunication problems, we get upset very quickly and then we calm down and its like it never happened, but to me the idea of marriage is being able to talk and discuss things without getting into an argument. I work all day, I leave home at 8 in the morning and don’t come back until 5:30, maybe he could use that time and spend it with his grandma at her house! He knows that I dont like people sleeping over, but if he wants her to sleep over once a month, fine I can do that, but I don’t want to share my bed with anyone, so maybe we can make some sleeping arrangements.
Post # 77
I hope it goes well for you!! Just try to keep the focus on “what can we do” and off of whose fault any of this is, and be ready to offer some thigns on your end (like convincing your parents to put a lock on your bedroom door etc) so he doesn’t feel like he’s the only one who has to confront people and you’re the only one getting your way. good luck 🙂
Post # 78
Thanks, everything worked out just fine, I spoke to him and he agrees this is not something to do 2 or 3 times a month, that it was only for one day because he hasn’t seen her in years (he admitted himself that he does not like family members stay over, but this was a special occasion) I set some boundaries like not sharing our bed with anyone, he said that he is ok with that because that is our personal bed, at the end grandma wanted to sleep on the sofa because she does not like sleeping with anyone (yay!!) and we slept on our bed. He is taking her back home this morning.