(Closed) What to do? Received thank you note for gifts we didn’t send

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Yes, definitely let them know, so that they can find out who really gave them the gifts.  Mixups like this probably happen all the time.

Post # 4
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would give a call and explain what happened- otherwise, the people who sent the gifts won’t get thanked, and they will either think the gift didn’t come or that the couple didn’t care enough to send thank yous.

Post # 6
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would let them know. The correct gift giver is not going to get any credit for their gift and hurt feelings may develope. As a bride I would be thankful someone brought it to my attention even if I became embarassed

Post # 7
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yep, call her. As a bee yourself, you can definitely relate to her in a light hearted way about the stress and craziness that ensues around a wedding, and keep it from getting too embarrasing. 🙂 Who knows, you might even make a new pen pal friend, hehe!

Post # 8
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I definitely would let them know. Chances are the other gifts had similar wrapping or were send about the same time as your gift. Someone out there is wondering why they haven’t been thanked!

Post # 9
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I’d call to let them know.  They’ll probably want to make sure that the people who actually bought those items receive the right Thank You.

Post # 10
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Since you don’t know the bride, could you contact the groom and let him know?  He might take it better since he actually does know who you are.

Post # 11
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Definitely let the bride (or groom, since you’re closer to him) know. I’m sure they would want to know, so that the people who actually gave them those things can be properly thanked.

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