Post # 1
Sorry this may be long. I am a regular poster on here, however I did not feel comfortable posting this under my original user name. So basically, during the planning of my bachelorette party last year, there was a ton of drama involved, which luckily I did not have to hear about until after it was over. A few weeks after the party, my friend (we’ll call her Cara) who was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, told me about another friend’s behavior (we’ll call her Tina). Cara said that out of all of the girls, Tina was the only one that was being difficult and didn’t agree to any of the plans for the party. Cara also told me that Tina didn’t bring what she was supposed to to the party, and that she made no effort to have any fun that night. I could say more of what Cara told me, but to make a long story short, Cara basically made Tina out to be the bad guy of the group.
Fast forward a year later, and everytime I have hung out with Cara, she always finds some way to bring up Tina put her down in front of me. After a year of this, I had enough and told Cara to stop bringing up Tina in future get togethers, and she agreed. Anyway, a few days later, I am hanging out with Tina, and another friend who was a Bridesmaid or Best Man (we’ll call her Nicole). Basically Tina and Nicole told me that Cara was being a total diva during the planning of my bachelorette party, and that she told my other friends that she was the closest to me, and basically took over the entire planning of the party, and she was not even the maid of honor! They told me that Cara shot down everyone else’s ideas, and we basically did what Cara wanted to do that night. I am so furious at Cara, because she was the one who was making out Tina to be the bad guy, while she was probably the most difficult out of everyone else. I am also angry because she could have ruined my friendship with Tina, had I not listened to my gut and told myself that there are always two sides to every story. I really want to call Cara out on her behavior, but I am not sure if it is even worth it at this point. Any advice??
Post # 3
Not worth it. It was last year? Yeah, it’s time for everyone to move on. You did the right thing by telling Cara to stop talking shit, but at this point it’s time for everyone to just get over it and move on with their lives.
Post # 4
Ugh people….. I guess a year later there is nothing you can really do…
Post # 5
@KristenGotMarried: This exactly. Whatever Bridesmaid or Best Man drama went down, it’s over now. You did the right thing by standing up to Cara, and if she continues to talk smack, then just firmly stand your ground. But definitely don’t bring up any year old wedding drama.
Post # 6
@mockingjay1984: I wouldn’t. No good will come of dredging it all up. A few of my bridesmaids are being ridiculous…one even yelled at me for having a new ring (as opposed to something vintage) because it was a blood diamond…!!!! (by the way, it’s a conflict free diamond). But getting mad at her is not going to help anything! I want things to go smoothly and so I’m going to let things go.
However, if it were a regular situation, without a wedding, I would say something!
Post # 7
um… your friends are catty enough talking behind each other’s backs… do you know how catty you will sound if you say “hey remember last year when you said blah blah? well you’re a liar.”
srsly. don’t even bother with this old stuff… it’s old. ignore them all.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your advice. You guys are right, bringing this up is not going to help at all. I think I will just let this go and keep on moving forward. Thanks again bees!!
Post # 9
I know what it is like to have ‘friends’ stirring trouble up. Ex friends of Fiance and myself are still gossiping about us, nearly 2 years after we last had contact with any of them.
Like PPs have advised, ignore, ignore, ignore. If any of these ladies bring it up again, tell them it’s in the past, you’ve moved on and so should they. And that you don’t want to hear about it all again.
Post # 10
@TheMsMittens: Thanks for your reply! And that is crazy that your ex-friends still haven’t moved on with their lives after 2 years.
I definitely think that ‘Cara’ was trying to create unneccessary drama by continuing to bringing up the situation, and hopefully I will never have to hear anything about it again. If I had to go back in time, I would just plan my own bachelorette party, lol.