(Closed) What to do? (vent}

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
28 posts

I am sure she should understand even if she is divorced because at one point she was a hopful bride to be its terrible she is being so cold and not thinking of how either of your feel. I would hope maybe he can find someone who would be willing to take a few extra shifts and maybe bring it up again and see if he already gets the labor covered she will be more open to giving you a few days worth a try

Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh I’m sure shrs being vindictive solely because she’s divorced. Alot of people cant just take off right aftet their wedding….take a mini trip the following weekend and make after work special.

Post # 5
3025 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Sick day.

Post # 6
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t understand what being divorced has to do with any of this… How far in advance did he ask? Does he have vacation days? It does suck but plenty of people don’t get off after their wedding (me included) and just go on a honeymoon later.

Post # 7
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Frustrating as this is, you do have your entire married life in front of you to spend time in his company and ttc. Lots of people have to delay their honeymoons and while it’s not ideal, it’s not unusual. Don’t assume that just because she’s divorced she has any intention of ruining your time together as newlyweds. Instead, book some vacation time later and enjoy a delayed honeymoon when you won’t be tired out from the excitement of your wedding day. 

Post # 8
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Why in the world did the boss need to know this was for a honeymoon????

Look at the time off policy, find the vacation time and take your honeymoon.  If your fiancee works in a place where time off is  unpaid time off and he’s scheduled by week, he needs a new job.

Post # 9
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I see your wedding is July 2014 – did he just ask now?  We put in for our honeymoon time months ago so we could make sure that we were all set.

And I highly doubt her marital status has anything to do with it – she’s trying to run a business and if she doesn’t have coverage or he doesn’t have accrued vacation time and he asked at the last minute, then there is little she could do.

Post # 10
2258 posts
Buzzing bee

she won’t even let him have a couple of days off after the wedding so he and I Can ttc

Why does he need to take time off work for you to TTC…? Is this the reason he gave her?

Post # 11
5219 posts
Bee Keeper

How much time off/PTO/vacation days does he have accrued at this point? Does his company have “black out dates” around fiscal year end, end of qtr or sales cycles? Is he in the negative on his time off allowance or did he not give proper notice of when to be able to take time off? Most employers allow people to take time off when necessary, but if they are out of PTO, trying to take time off during black out dates or are already in negative time off– the employer will deny their request. 



Post # 12
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Akbridezilla:  Maybe your Fiance didn’t plan his time off right or perhaps there would have been a better time of year for you to get married that would afford Fiance some time off as you both would like. To put blame on his boss as a wicked divorcee makes you sound crazy.

Post # 13
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeah…I am sure that time off for “trying to make a baby” wouldn’t be approved.

Post # 14
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Akbridezilla:  I agree with a few other posters: when did he ask for the time off? If your fiance didn’t ask far enough in advance, you can’t expect his boss to make a special exception just because it’s his honeymoon.

Of course, if he did ask a long time in advance and it was refused, then that’s different. He might be able to take it to HR, or look for another job.

Post # 15
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not all PTO gets approved. Fact of life. 

How much notice did he give?

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