(Closed) What to do ?! Waiting/Etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I really believe that your wedding must happen on your own schedule, and other people’s relationships shouldn’t affect when you can married. 

I think just to try be considerate of her timeline, financial issues, and mutual guests. Like, if you have your wedding two weeks before, will mutual Out of Town friends have to choose between your weddings. Do you have a month in mind to get married? 

When you get engaged, just be open with your friend about your timeline so you don’t catch her by surprise. but a true friend won’t mind if you “beat her down the aisle”. A bride really only gets a day. not a year.

Post # 5
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ugh when you pick a date.. You pick one that is the best for you and your merman!! It doesnt matter if its before or after hers you have to get married and whatever when you want.. Just dont obviously do it the same weekend if you have mutual friends etc. 

Post # 6
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree–as long as you don’t have your wedding on the same weekend as your friend, you’ll be fine.  She doesn’t own 2012.  🙂


Post # 7
3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree, pick a date that is right for you! Just keep in mind that it would be nice to consider them. Don’t worry about getting married before or after them, just consider that a week before or after theirs might be exhausting for both of you are couples. 

Also, as yours is a Destination Wedding they might not be able to make it due to money etc. But again, don’t let that hinder your plans.

I think that 2 months away is heaps of time. 


Post # 9
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Pick a date that’s good for you! My fiance and I had 2 seperate couples get engaged after us and married before us, and honestly we were fine with it. If they’re your friends they will support you no matter what. No worries and happy planning!

Post # 11
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As others have said, pick a date that works for you! I’m in the same situation as your friend.  One of my friends got engaged after me and is getting married 3 months before me.  Her wedding is a destination wedding for me (5-6 hour plane ride). I’m thrilled! I can’t wait for her wedding! We have a lot of mutual friends, and I can’t wait to be a guest at her wedding and have a weekend off from my planning. 

I really don’t know how your friend could be upset.  I would just let her know the date as soon as you’ve picked it, so she is more likely to attend (and doesn’t plan a shower/bachelorette part for that same weekend).

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