What to do? What to do?

posted 1 year ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Ohh. Well first off, congrats on the job AND on the baby!! Double exciting news 🙂

That’s a tough call. My first reaction was to go all Sheryl Sandberg on you and say Lean In, but after thinking about it, what I personally would do if I feel it is a trustworthy company with integrity is once they have given you an offer letter, explain the situation and ask explicitely about maternity leave policies and whether you’d be eligible.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Ask about maternity leave when you get the offer. That way you can have the full picture before making a decision.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

anonybee2016 :  If you are going to accept the offer you have to tell them anyway. Be upfront. Know the whole picture before making a decision.

If they pull the offer because of that well you probably would have been screwed there anyway.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Congrats!  Ooh, I totally understand your worries.  Can you figure out if they have to hold your job if you take maternity leave?  I did a lot of investigating while I was on leave, because I debated not coming back to my job at all…and found that by law I had to return for 30 days for them to not be able to sue me for the benefits I took while on leave.  I would not want to divulge to them that I was pregnant that early.  I didn’t even tell my own mother until a doctor confirmed at 10 weeks. Depending on when you get hired, you could have theoretically not even known you were pregnant even, right?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh my goodness, congrats! Such exciting news (though a little stressful too 😉 ). I agree that you should ask about maternity leave when you get the offer, just so you have the full picture.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

You don’t have to tell them anything. They can’t discriminate against you. If you know you’ll lose the bit if maternity pay you’d get where you are but you and your husband agree you can do without it anyway there’s no dilemma. Take the new job! 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

anonybee2016 :  they can’t fire you surely? I know your laws (assuming you’re in America) about employment are poor compared to ours but   firing a mother because she takes unpaid leave she’s entitled to …no?! 😮

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

UK-bee :  The only maternity leave required in the US (and please correct me if I’m wrong US Bees) is that your employer has to hold your job for 12 weeks while you take maternity leave. They do not have to pay you, they just are not allowed to fire you. However, that only applies to companies with over a certain number of employees and in most cases if you’ve worked there for less than a year they don’t have to grant your maternity leave at all. Because after a year is when you’re covered by FMLA. 

Here is a link: https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla

Some bullet points:

– The FMLA provides certain employees with up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave per year. It also requires that their group health benefits be maintained during the leave.

– Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles.

ETA: OP I have no advice unfortunately. It is a problem I worry about as well. My husband and I just started TTC and though I’m not looking for a job currently, I’m also not happy with my job but feel semi-stuck here because of the maternity leave issue. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

UK-bee :  FMLA is the US federal law that protects your job if you need leave for any medical or caretaker situations, including maternity leave.  It goes into affect only AFTER you’ve been with the employer for 1 year and only IF the company employs more than 50 people.  It doesn’t guarantee any leave pay, just that you can be out for 12 weeks and the company must hold a job for you.  Oh, and you can still get laid off or have your job eliminated while on FMLA and long as they don’t replace you.  Good times.  

Technically, if you were only employed for 11 months before having the baby, the company has no legal obligation to hold your job.  

Many companies do offer enhanced benefits, such as maternity leave pay, allowing workers to take more than 12 weeks (either paid or unpaid depending on company policy), or allowing new employees to partake in maternity benefits when they haven’t been there a year, but LEGALLY companies only have to follow the FMLA policy.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Bee- you said your friend knows your are TTC, why not ask her the policy. 

how large is the company? Is the person you are dealing with an HR person? 

I would get an offer and then ask for the policy, I’m in HR and I get asked our parental leave policy regularlly and don’t really question it. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

anonybee2016 :  I actually meant from the company! Who is your go to person there? 

Also how quickly would you start? 

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