- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have no relationship with my dad’s side of the family. They were not interested in my dad and his family after my grandfather (GF) remarried.
My father passed away 3 years ago and his step and half sibling came to the funeral. They wanted a relationship with me but then never called after they went home to see how I was doing or to say hi. I was not upset nor did I feel I was missing anything since I hadn’t had a relationship with them or really seen any of them since I was a little kid.
After my father passed away, GF, who couldn’t travel due to age started calling me weekly, mostly to brag about his family, but no big deal. He did always ask how I was and how my mother was. And then brag some more. (That’s just the type of person he is, my mom said he was always like that.)
I planned to invite GF and his wife as a courtesy (knowing they couldn’t travel) to my wedding. Two days after I got engaged GF passed away. (BTW, my dad’s brother calls me the day of the funeral to tell me the news and that he doesn’t expect me to fly across the country because i wouldn’t make it in time anyway). I never told GF i was engaged so I doubt anyone from that side of the family knows I am engaged anyway.
My mom calls me the other day asking if I thought about inviting anyone from my dad’s side because her friends thought I should. I said, yes I thought about it and no I’m not.
I don’t want to invite my dad’s step and half siblings. But should I still send an invitation to GF’s wife? Since I was planning to send one when GF was alive? Would that be rude to only send to her?