(Closed) What To do, what to do– dilemma on how to involve a close friend

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You can make up your own rules on what you want her to be!  Personally, I wouldn’t have her be a guestbook attendant or present watcher because both of those aren’t really necessary and sort of demeaning in my opinion.

Post # 5
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Is your other friend musically inclined?  If so, maybe having her do a short musical piece (singing or playing) during your ceremony.  Or, have both your friends “share” in the reading – alternating paragraphs or phrases.  Another suggestion is to have her say grace at dinner (if you are planning to say a prayer).

I have always heard that being an attendant can be seen as doing all of the things of a bridesmaid without getting the credit of being a bridesmaid – I’m not sure if this is an accurate depiction, but just my opinion!

Post # 6
350 posts
Helper bee

If you want her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, have her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, these days it is not necessary for sides to be even.  Remember that some people may view “personal attendant” aka “wedding slave” as all of the work with none of the honor.  If you don’t want her as Bridesmaid or Best Man and there are no more readings for her to do, what about having her light a candle or be an usher?

Post # 7
350 posts
Helper bee

I missed chitown’s post about having the girls do different parts of the reading — that is a great idea!

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