- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So, I am Maid/Matron of Honor at a destination wedding … the bride has been engaged since late 2008 and when she got engaged, her father (her parents are separated) had said that he would definitely put in X amount of dollars for the wedding, and if he could afford to put anything more he would, he also said he would cover the flights for the Maid/Matron of Honor (me) and the Best Man to the destination.
So the couple have not done any saving for the wedding, they know they were only guaranteed X amount of dollars from the bride’s father, but assumed that they would get a sum larger than that. Turns out, the father can only afford to give X amount of dollars … so now the couple are stuck with a shortfall of what their wedding is going to cost (wedding is March 27) and what they are going to get from her dad.
I get dragged in, because up until this point and for the last year and half, it has been understood my flight was going to be covered, so I booked it and have been waiting to get reimbursed. Well, now the bride has decided that she is going to take 3/4 of the money for my flight and apply it to wedding costs, so now only 1/4 of my flight is going to be covered.
I understand that it was extremely generous for her father to offer to pay for my flight, and I am gracious, and know that it isn’t something I should have expected. But he did, and I did … and now I’m being told that actually, I’m now responsible for a good chunk of my flight … when the wedding is only a month away!
I could have been saving to cover the flight over the last year, and now have to come out with some serious money in the next month (I don’t want it to sit on my credit card). I am still a student, don’t have a tonne of cash and am saving for my own wedding too.
So, my feeling is … that I should take that money I now have to spend on my flight, out of what I would have used to give them a gift (which is higher than I would have spent to begin with … so their gift fund would be at a negative amount). But, I don’t want to start a cat fight with the bride … what would you bees do?