Post # 1
My Fiance had quite the drinking problem before we were together. He had several DUI’s and almost lost his job because of the last one so he decided to quit drinking. He has been sober for over 4 years. He doesn’t have a problem with people who drink and is still friends with his drinking buddies. He does occasionally drink a non alcoholic beer but doesn’t drink anything else. My question is how do we do a couples toast when he doesn’t drink champange? Maybe we just don’t do it but would it be weird to skip it?
Post # 3
You can use sparkling cider for him. then you wont have to skip it.
GOOD FOR HIM for being sober 4 + years!
Post # 4
Apple cider!! 🙂
The venue can pour cider in his, and dilute it with a bit of sprite to match the color of champagne!
Post # 5
Good for him for staying sober! You can just arrange for his glass to have something like sparkling cider in it.
Post # 6
I think if I knew (which I’m going to guess close friends and family have at least SOME idea of his past issues) then I would think it was more weird TO do one. No one will miss a champange toast, toast with whatever is in your hand. It’s cheaper that way too!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We had sparkling cider and champagne available. We had to ask for it, but it didn’t cost anything extra. I have a number of recovered alcoholics in my immediate and extended family and a lot of DH’s famiyl abstains for religious reasons. Darling Husband needs to stop drinking, but we’re still working on that… luckily, we’re not in danger zone yet, but I know how this disease works and I know where it’s going.
Post # 8
I would say either skip it or toast with somethng non-alcoholic, like old-fashioned Coca-Cola bottles.
Do you guys have a favorite drink? Everyone knows I LOVE lemonade so if we were having a summer wedding, we’d have a lemonade toast. We did consider having an apple cider toast for our fall wedding (but we’re not going to do a toast for various reasons). You could use sparking cider too. Or you could have a toast with whatever people are drinking – I’ve actually been to very few weddings with champagne toasts. At most of the weddings I’ve been to, everyone just raises up their drinking glass.
Post # 9
@graygodess20- Thanks! I’m proud of him for staying sober! We probably wouldn’t be together if he still drank like he used to.
Pretty much everyone knows he doesn’t drink so maybe it would be better to not do a champagne toast. That way we won’t have his mom freaking out that he’s drinking again!
Post # 10
@Face: If everyone knows he doesn’t drink, I think it would be really cute to do it with something else like someone previously suggested.
Post # 11
I’m the non-drinker, I have health issues and take some SERIOUS meds, so drinking is pretty much a no-no for me, I’m toasting with ginger ale or sparkling cider! Congratulations to your Fiance for doing the right thing and kudos to you for being there for him.
Post # 12
It’s a good idea to have a few glasses that have cider as an alternative – he may not be the only one there who wants to avoid alcohol.
Post # 13
I agree, let him have his favorite soda!
Post # 14
We didn’t do a champagne toast at all. So many people don’t like champagne that it seemed like a waste! People just drank whatever they had when we toasted – that would definitely take the pressure off him!
Post # 15
As an Oldie Bee and an Encore Bride … I’d say just go with the oldest known replacement GINGERALE… with the colour and bubbles, it honestly does look like champagne in a glass.
If Gingerale isn’t his thing… then maybe Apple Juice (not a fan of sparkling cider… and there is the risk that some venue will screw that order up and give you an Alcoholic one vs a Non-Alcoholic one)
Or as other Bees have suggested, you can OWN THE TOAST, and put your own signature style onto it…
Cocoa Cola (like the photo)… or even Milk (like at the Indy 500) are all possible alternatives.
Post # 16
@MsVoyageur: Love this idea!
I would also look into sparkling cider of some sort. I know a local winery in town that makes this AMAZING sparkling grape juice (N/A). I actually prefer it to a lot of wines that I have tasted.