Post # 1
I wanted to know if there was anyone who had advice to get through a difficult time right now. I am engaged to an amazing man but as I prepare for the wedding everything is just sad because my parents will not attend the wedding. They refuse because they have animals to take care of, jobs to go to, and it is not going to be in Texas (where I was born and raised). Instead, I will be having it in Iowa at the church where my Fiance and I first met.
We have been engaged since January and when asking my parents why they refuse, they say it is not always about me. What should I do? How do I get over this ordeal and become happy again. Everytime I look at weddings with the brides mother and father it stresses me out.
Also, the day we got engaged in Hawaii on top of the Diamond Head Monument they said, “if it is not in Texas don’t expect anything from us.”
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Post # 3
🙁 I am so sorry you’re going through that. And I am sorry to say it, but that is one of the most selfish things I ever heard of parents doing. For your wedding, it IS all about you, and even if you were getting married in Bangledesh they should find a way there. When they said “it’s not always about you” they were right.. this is about them and how they are too selfish to make a hard effort to see their daughter get married. It has nothing to do with you or anything you did, but how very selfish they are. It sounds like you have a wonderful man who loves you and cares for you deeply, try to concentrate on that! They are the ones truly missing out on that day, and they have to live with themselves knowing that they not only made you feel this way, but missed one of the most important days in your life. And that is sad, and you’re allowed to be sad, but be sad for them, not for you. Aww, I wish I could just jump through the screen and give you a massive hug.
Post # 4
Im sooo sorry. unfortunately family is the source of pain and hurt. while love is supposed to be a given…..sometimes they hurt us the most. all i can advise u to do is move on. its their lose and they will regret it forever. how incredibly selfish of them….putting animalsbefore u….their daughter. i guess they won’t be winning the parents of the yr award. i say fuck them….be happy…don’t let them see how much hurt they r putting u thru.
Post # 5
Oops, looks like this is a double thread! I’m going to go ahead and close this one and refer everyone here to comment: