(Closed) What to do when someone assumes?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5962 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

whatever…she’ll figure it out sooner or later.  Life is full of dissapointment and just because she follows your blog that doesn’t mean a thing…I’m friends with a lot of people, I bet some of them know some people who know some people that were at Prince William and Kate’s wedding…now I am pissed that I wasn’t invited…she?   Ludicrous!

Post # 5
5962 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sommertime:  Why does anyone think anything?  A person’s mind is a bizarre concoction of perception and fantasy…and I’ll bet it’s not so much about being at your wedding as it is a provocation for her own fantasies surrounding her wedding if she’s single or some other romantic and grand experience…can’t stop her, just smile and keep on going!

Post # 6
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had people that were not on our guest list flat out ask me in person if they were invited…

Awkward is right

Post # 7
511 posts
Busy bee

We all know what happens with the word assume… just make sure that her non-invited status  doesn’t make an ass out of you 😉

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

People will assume all sorts of things. I would just say something like “were keeping it to family and close friends” and hope she takes the hint. If not… Well she’ll figure it out eventually. 

Post # 9
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Just ignore her. She’ll find out eventually. 

Post # 10
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe she plans to celebrate with you from home! 😉

Post # 11
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ignore it the first time, the second or third time, just be direct and say I really appreciate how excited you are for us, but we are planning an intimate wedding with close family and friends.  If she doesnt’ like it too damn bad!

Post # 12
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m assuming if she’s following your blog, she’ll figure it out. If you don’t want to confront it head on, do a blog post about  the size of your invites and talk about how you’d like to invite SO many people but you are under great constraints, so the wedding has to be small. 

I wouldn’t write it as an “announcement,” more like an article, or something that’s really just your thoughts, but not directed at anyone. Know what I mean?


Post # 13
11351 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Even though she was incorrect for presuming that she would be invited, it’s probably best for you not to blog about your wedding until it is actually over and you can write a recap of the big day. 

Post # 15
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, social media is like that… sometimes because we follow something… be it a Blog, a Discussion Board (like here on WBee) or even a Tv Show… people sometimes “get the feeling” that they know someone, or are friends with someone on a more intense level than they really are.

As others in “the Hive” has said, she’ll figure it all out eventually… or like honeybee1999:  sugggested you could always do a Blog Posting about managing the Guest List Process (oh my gosh, I never realized just HOW EXPENSIVE a Wedding can be… or how complicated it is to fit in all these relatives I didn’t realize I had)

I’ve also noticed from other topics here on WBee, that sometimes Brides now comment how before they started planing their own Weddings, they had NO IDEA how complex organizing such an event was.  And have discovered that they probably made some major faux pas in the past when they’ve made comments about being invited etc to other’s Weddings.  It could be that this girl, has no real idea about how the logistics of Wedding Planning works… and she is just bubbling over with enthusiasm and just naturally assumes you’ll be inviting EVERYONE you know… including her.

On the other hand, ya know when she said “”Oh how exciting! I can’t wait to celebrate with you on your special day!” she could have also just meant follow along on your Blog and read all about it… I certainly at times “feel like” I’m sharing in the Wedding of my fellow Bees who’s Blog entries appear here on WBee as “chosen Bees” … I realize I don’t know these gals, but at times it does feel like I am “right there” participating in their Wedding Plans / Events / and ultimately their Big Day.  (As per paragraph 1 above… it is just part of being involed with social media)

EDIT TO ADD – I’m guessing that Brielle: is suggesting that you don’t blog about the details (Date, Time, Location etc), because then you might end up with Wedding Crashers (including possibly this girl) … sounds wierd but it does happen.


Post # 16
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is awkward…Just ignore it though. She will realize sooner or later!

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