Post # 1
Hi Ladies. Have a question and looking for advice. I emailed FI’s cousin the other day asking for his mailing addess and his brother’s mailing address so that I could send them their invitations. Theses boys are both in their mid-20’s and live on their own as far as we know. The response I got from his was that he had just moved and therefore did not know his own address. He then told me to just send his invitation to his parent’s house (FI’s aunt and uncle) and they would make sure he got it. He also said he has no clue what his brother’s address is.
First of all, who does not know their own address? Secondly, where should I send these invites now? These boys are in their mid-20’s and now I have to send the invitation to their parents like they are children? The invitations are large and include pocketfolds, etc., so there is no way I can send more than one invitation in an envelope. Do I send all three invitation suites in seperate envelopes to the Aunt and Uncle’s house?
I dunno why exactly but I just find this irritating. They are not kids for goodness sakes. We are even giving them both a plus 1.
Post # 3
@sillysillybee: That is ridiculous that they don’t know their own addresses!!
Anyways, I’d just send one invite to the parents house and write “Jones Family” (assuming that everyone in the family is invited.) At least you can save on the postage, and they probably will forget to RSVP anyways :-p
Post # 4
@sillysillybee: I think it’s totally fine to send the invites to their parents, in separate envelopes. Whatever, some people in their 20s (and older, thinking of some of my crazy relatives) just don’t have it together.
Post # 5
@sarahmichelle: Thanks. We were going to give each cousin a plus one. If I send the invitation to the family as a whole how can I make it clear the boys get to bring a date?
Post # 6
@sillysillybee: If they’re adults, they should get their own separate invitiation, like @remijp: said, even if they’re all being sent to the same address. The plus one issue is one reason why you shouldn’t just send one invite to the whole family.
“I don’t know my own address” is pretty lame, and that’s what I’d chock this up to: laziness. Maybe ask their parents for their addresses, or at least for the brother’s, if the one cousin can’t be bothered to figure his own address out?
Post # 7
@sillysillybee: Eh, I would just send three separate invitations (each with a +1) to the aunt/uncle’s house. I had a few guests that I was unsure about their addresses as they were students who didn’t have a permanent abode. There were a few houses that ended up getting multiple albeit separate invites.
Post # 8
@sillysillybee: Originally I was going to say just list out the people invited and indicate who gets a guest on the inner envelope, but now that I re-read I’m assuming you’re not having one. You could send the separate invites to the same address. Or, depending on how close FI is with his cousins, he could always mention it to them that they get to bring guests. Not sure how formal your wedding is or how concerned you are with etiquette. 🙂
Post # 9
@sillysillybee: I would just send an invitation to the family, and maybe in passing with them mention to the parents that you expected that each of the sons might have a plus one, or something along those lines.
Post # 10
@sillysillybee: Send three separate invitations. That’s what you would have done anyway if they provided their addresses.
Post # 11
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@sillysillybee: I had to do this with one of the invitations I sent because the guy (another 20s male) had just moved and didn’t know his address. Just mail it to his parents in a separate envelope with his name on it. I just chalk it up to guys in their 20s.
Post # 12
I would just send them their own invites but send them to their parents’ house. I have a couple cousins who were about to move when I was gathering addresses, so they asked me to send the invites to their parents’ house and they would pass them on.
Post # 13
Maybe try yellowpages.com
Post # 14
@sillysillybee: As stupid as he sounds, I would send separate invitations to the parents’ home.
Post # 15
Ugh, that’s annoying. DH’s family was a PITA for invites. He has an aunt, whose two grown (unmarried) daughters both live with her. Becuase I was giving each daughter a +1, I had to send 3 invites to the same address. Talk about an annoying waste of postage. Every other occasion I buck tradition and send things like Christmas cards to them all on the same card. FWIW, they send out a joint Christmas card together.
However, we did have one friend of DH that I hounded. Well not houdned, but definitely messaged like 3 times about his address. He never got back, so I said forget it, I didn’t send him an invite. Come to find out later (via my brother) said friend thought our wedding would be “too fancy” and he wouldn’t fit in. Ummmm, ok?
Post # 16
@julies1949: Yes I think that’s what i’ll have to do but ya….it does sound stupid. The thing is, at least one of these boys does not even live in the same city as his parents!
@starfish0116: Lol! How ridiculous. I am certainly not hounding these boys for thier proper addresses. I personally do not care whether they come or not but they have to be invited. It’s so lame they they can’t or won’t give me an address. Oh well…invites go them them care of Mommy and Daddy I suppose.