(Closed) What to do when someone can't/won't provide a mailing address?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’d just send them to their parents house like they said or even just include their names on their parent’s invitation.  I know they are supposed to get their own invitations, but they don’t act like adults and I really doubt they would care.  

Post # 33
1727 posts
Bumble bee

@sillysillybee:  call the aunt and uncle and get the addresses. They’re adults, send it to their home. If they forget to RSVP, it’s on their head, not the parents for no giving the invitations over.

Post # 34
2184 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sillysillybee:  Just mail their own invites to the parents house and email the parents or call saying hey I spoke to your son and he said to mail their invites to your place because of a move…. I just want to let you know and make sure thats ok.

I really dont think its that big a deal and I had to mail several invites to one household when I did mine too because of a lack of addresses. I had one family with 2 adult “children”. 1  living at home and the other on her own… we were told to just send them all to the parents. Point being, if they wanna be there they will figure it out 😉 ….if you ask for the address and they dont give you one then no one can complain about proper etiquette of how they got it.

Post # 35
16 posts

I would send three separate invitations to the parents house.  One to your FI’s aunt and uncle and one for each of the cousins.  While it does seem ridiculous that an adult would not know their own address, I was recently in the same situation.  We had just sold our house, however we had not yet decided on where we would be moving to.  We ended up living in a hotel for about a month, but we had no idea of knowing when we would be out… *just playing devil’s advocate*

Also, you can just call or leave room on invitation for a plus one if you like.  

Post # 36
168 posts
Blushing bee

He may not actually have a home, you know. He could be couch surfing on friends’ couches for a while but doesn’t want to admit that. Just send to the address he told you – if that’s his parents’ address then do that.

Post # 37
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had an issue similar to this when I was sending out our invites. Two of my cousins were not getting back to me as far as their addresses were concered and after a couple of months of waiting I messaged them both and told them that this was as long as I could wait and asked them if they wanted an invite at all. I got a very rude response from one of them saying her address was none of my busisness and to send it to her parents and no response from the other so I just added their names on to the end of their parents invitation and sent it. 


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