Post # 1
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159 posts
Blushing bee
I used to work with this girl at my old job. We’ve both since left the company, and she has also since moved to another part of the state. We occasionally text/keep in touch, but I hadn’t considered inviting her to my wedding.
Today, we were texting about an upcoming fashion event (random) and she texted me asking me for the wedding date and information. WHAT?! I realize she is the one being a bit rude assuming she’ll be invited, but I definitely don’t want to be ruder/hurt feelings.
Is there a polite way to let her know she will not be invited? I know there’s the “close friends and family” response, but… is there anything else? I am feeling guilty, but how guilty should I be feeling? Should I be adding her to my list?
Ahhhh unnecessary wedding stress!!! 🙂
Post # 3
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
@LillyLover: I don’t think I would tell her flat out that you aren’t inviting her. Assuming you didn’t give her the date or any other information related to your wedding, I would just tell her that you haven’t decided on a date or anything. And if you aren’t close to this girl, you are in no way obligated to invite her. 
Post # 4
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701 posts
Busy bee
sometimes i think people are just genuinly interested in your weddng and not tryng to get an invite. I asked a friend whom i used to be really good friends with, but in no way thought i would be invited as we were no longer keeping in regular contact and i had asked her how the wedding plans were going for her, and if she had found a dress yet as i’d heard tht they can take ages to buy. this was not a random conversation started by me. in no way was i asking for an invite, but just inquiring about her life when we were texting over nothing really.. she sent me back a response saying something along the lines of keeping it small and family orientated. I was flabberghasted. honestly i just want to talk about the weddig not ask for an invite. i did say to her straight after that im sorry if that sounded like i was expecting an invite, and that in no way did i, i was genuinely interested in the planning, and sorry for putting her in a situation that felt uncomfortable. So berfore you send her one of thos uncomfortable resonses think about what she is asking you. it could be a misunderstanding.. or not.. GL
Post # 5
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159 posts
Blushing bee
Thanks, girls! You guys are totally right- I am just making a non-situation into a situation! I responded to her that it’s in June and getting closer day by day. She wrote back, “Omg! You must be having so much fun getting ready!” And that was that.
Glad I didn’t go over the top, just like you said!!
