(Closed) What to do when the couple asks for no gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Cash!!! And yes, I would still give something. . I know they are being gracious but I could not in good conscience attend a local wedding empty handed. Or a gc to a nice restaurant would be lovely.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m sure they wouldn’t be bothered by a gift card to a store or restaurant. Or you could make a donation to a charity on their behalf.

Post # 5
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18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think I would still give a gift card or something.  They might want people to not feel obligated to buy a gift but it would still be nice to do so.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d go with cash, gift card, or donation.  I wouldn’t buy a conspicuous gift and bring it to the wedding though, b/c I think that might make other guests feel awkward.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I love the idea of a gift card to a restaurant. You could do a bottle of red wine and a bottle of white wine and give them the gift card to enjoy dinner on you one night.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with the previous posters. I’d definitely give them a gift card.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Mail them a check or GC 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was going to write a similar post this morning! I feel uncomfortable giving my friends cash… so I am not sure what we’re going to do! We’ll probably go the gift card route.

Am I right in thinking that when people don’t register they just want cash?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ottawabride- I would think so… but not sure.  We’re actually trying to figure this out.   

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

We didn’t ask for gifts, some people were traveling from a different country and lots were traveling far because of where everyone went after college, and since we already lived together and had enough we just didn’t feel right setting up a registry or making people feel like a gift was wanted.  Because really, what we wanted was a wedding and people at the wedding.  So….I donno, lots of people didn’t get a gift, lot donated to a charity we had mentioned, and lots gave money or gift cards or date night gifts or I donno, lots of little stuff, we only ended up taking a few things back.  I think if they don’t ask for gifts they probably mean it but you know I was appreciative when people did get us a gift, especially if they weren’t traveling and had the means.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Ottawa, sometimes! i have a friend who didn’t register for gifts b/c she truly didn’t want people to have to bring them. In fact, she didn’t tell anyone about her baby registry b/c she didn’t want to seem “gift grabby” !!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with the other posters…I’d go with cash, gift card, or donation. My friends got married and were moving immediately to Europe, so they did not want any gifts since they’d have to move them. We wanted to give a gift anyway, so gave them a check because we figured they could apply it to moving expenses or buy something they’d need for their apartment in Europe.

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