Post # 1
I just received a save-the-date for a friend’s wedding, and noticed on their wedding website that they have specifically not set up any registries and are asking to receive no gifts. They say on their website that most of their guests are from out of town, and they would prefer that their guests spend their money on a plane ticket to the wedding, and maybe an extra day to explore the SF area, rather than on a gift. However, we are local, and I feel somewhat uncomfortable not buying a gift. I’m thinking that I would just get them a generous gift card to a store that they like …or maybe to a local restaurant, since they are quite the foodies.
So what would you do? If a couple asks to receive no gifts would you respect their wishes, or would you buy them a gift anyways? I mean, everyone likes receiving gifts, right?
Post # 3
Cash!!! And yes, I would still give something. . I know they are being gracious but I could not in good conscience attend a local wedding empty handed. Or a gc to a nice restaurant would be lovely.
Post # 4
I’m sure they wouldn’t be bothered by a gift card to a store or restaurant. Or you could make a donation to a charity on their behalf.
Post # 5
I think I would still give a gift card or something. They might want people to not feel obligated to buy a gift but it would still be nice to do so.
Post # 6
I’d go with cash, gift card, or donation. I wouldn’t buy a conspicuous gift and bring it to the wedding though, b/c I think that might make other guests feel awkward.
Post # 7
I love the idea of a gift card to a restaurant. You could do a bottle of red wine and a bottle of white wine and give them the gift card to enjoy dinner on you one night.
Post # 8
I agree with the previous posters. I’d definitely give them a gift card.
Post # 9
Mail them a check or GC 🙂
Post # 10
I was going to write a similar post this morning! I feel uncomfortable giving my friends cash… so I am not sure what we’re going to do! We’ll probably go the gift card route.
Am I right in thinking that when people don’t register they just want cash?
Post # 11
@ottawabride- I would think so… but not sure. We’re actually trying to figure this out.
Post # 12
We didn’t ask for gifts, some people were traveling from a different country and lots were traveling far because of where everyone went after college, and since we already lived together and had enough we just didn’t feel right setting up a registry or making people feel like a gift was wanted. Because really, what we wanted was a wedding and people at the wedding. So….I donno, lots of people didn’t get a gift, lot donated to a charity we had mentioned, and lots gave money or gift cards or date night gifts or I donno, lots of little stuff, we only ended up taking a few things back. I think if they don’t ask for gifts they probably mean it but you know I was appreciative when people did get us a gift, especially if they weren’t traveling and had the means.
Post # 13
@Ottawa, sometimes! i have a friend who didn’t register for gifts b/c she truly didn’t want people to have to bring them. In fact, she didn’t tell anyone about her baby registry b/c she didn’t want to seem “gift grabby” !!
Post # 14
I agree with the other posters…I’d go with cash, gift card, or donation. My friends got married and were moving immediately to Europe, so they did not want any gifts since they’d have to move them. We wanted to give a gift anyway, so gave them a check because we figured they could apply it to moving expenses or buy something they’d need for their apartment in Europe.