Post # 1
I’m getting married August 2nd. That’s next week!! I have to place the final menu, ice cream sandwich and table order today. And I want to print my table place cards. (Diy).
but I am still waiting on an RSVP for a family of 4!!!!! I’m so annoyed. It’s my high school friend. I haven’t seen him since last year but we go waaaaay back and he lives nearby now so I invited him. I have emailed him and sent him a FB msg (which I know he read). I asked him flat out (nicely) to RSVP because I need to place the final orders.
Do I assume he’s coming? Not coming? It’s a family of 4 so it will totally change my numbers (my total is 70 and we were planning on having a little bit extra so that should work for food and ice cream, but would totally change my table count and layout. That’s half a table!!!)
do i write again? I’m so embarrassed. Obviously I’m not important to him and I regret inviting him. I just wrote earlier this week. What do I do????
Post # 2
I would assume that he is not coming and not ask again. Excuse me for saying this, but if he and his family come, I’m sure there’s a perfectly good floor that they can sit on.
Post # 3
My wedding is August 2 as well and I think there are some people that could show up that haven’t RSVP’d as well. I am going to assume they are not coming, so I am not printing their names on the placecards and I did not include them in the final headcount for the venue (although you should lowball this anyway). If they show up, the venue has plenty of chairs and can find them a spot. I also will have a few blank placecards in case I hear from anyone a few days before, but their names will be written in and not printed.
You’ve done all you could by sending an invitation and following up. They are frankly being rude to YOU at this point and should be the ones that are embarrassed.
Post # 4
leave him a message that says “the RSVP date had passed. i tried contacting you with no response, therefore i must mark your family as not coming as final numbers are due. sorry to miss you.”
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would just assume not coming. I had to do this for about 5 families! None of them showed up.
Post # 6
how annoying and rude! I would send one last email letting them know you are assuming they are not coming and placing your final numbers today.
Post # 7
I would contact him one last time…… RSVP cards can get lost in the mail…… facebook/text/email with a deadline of tonight…….
Post # 8
I would call them directly and ask if they are coming. Some people are just really really bad with RSVPs.
Post # 9
Is there a reason you haven’t called? I wouldn’t rely on a FB mEsSage. I would’ve called before today but it’s too late to state the obvious. Call him. If you get no response then assume he is a NO.
Post # 10
If you have his phone number, call him, or message his partner via Facebook (if you know who she is) and ask her. I actually got a few RSVPs that way because a few had lost the RSVP cards or had sent them the day they were due so they shot me a message to tell me they were coming. If you don’t get a reply from either or if you don’t have their number, I think it’s safe to say he WONT be coming.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I would call them. If they don’t answer and don’t call you back, then it’s a no.
Post # 12
Call him. If you don’t get an answer, leave a message saying sorry but you have to mark him down as a no.
This happened with one of my mom’s cousins. I left it to my mom to hunt her down and she left several messages and voicemails and still never heard anything, so told her sorry but we’ll have to put her down as a no. This woman showed up (late, mind you. She missed the ceremony). We had to find her a seat and then she ate dinner and left. WTF is wrong with people! She also travelled several states to come! I don’t get it. Hope that doesn’t happen to you!
Post # 13
I would send him a last message saying that you haven’t heard from him and that you are going to put him and his family down as a “no”.
Post # 14
I don’t have his phone number so can’t call. I will message one last time today but honestly I’m embarrassed. I shouldn’t have invited him if he thinks so little of our friendship!
now to do the seating chart!!
Post # 15
I would assume not coming. I have 6 people not RSVP, and like you, ignore my requests to do so. None of them showed up.
Maybe I am a jerk, but if they did show up, I’d just say, sorry, you didnt respond so we werent expecting you.