Post # 16
if he hasn’t responded to the modes of communication you’ve used, you can try something new (or know that they most likely are not coming). Call or text. And instead of asking him to rsvp, just ask him if they’re coming- say you fully understand schedules can be very hectic, but you have to put in final food order today.
We didn’t do seating or order meals for any person who didn’t rsvp, tell us they were coming, or at least tell someone to tell us that they were coming.
Post # 17
I don’t think it necessarily mean that he thinks so little of your friendship. They probably forgot to rsvp, then got so embarassed that now they are afraid to.
At this point, I don’t think the obligation is on you to find other ways to communicate. Message him saying that having had no response, you are assuming they are unable to attend.
Post # 18
ok i sent him another fb message (no phone number). i said that i assumed that he unfortunately would be unable to make it, unless i heard otherwise today. it would just give me SUCH piece of mind to know either way!!
Post # 19
Assume they aren’t coming.
Post # 20
RUDE! weddings are expensive and numbers matter- everyone knows this. Your “friend” is either being passive aggressive about declining the invite, or he’s lazy and disrespectful. You don’t need that in your life! I’m sorry but you value the friendship more than he does and it’s time to just let it go.
Post # 21
My wedding is Sept. And our deadline for the rsvp is 8/1. We r doing the online rsvp, so, simply click “yes” or “no” . It only takes 2 seconds. And ppl still dont do it!!! How frustrating!!!!!!
Post # 22
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
omg you are hilirious! My exact thoughts.
honey I had multiple people that did not RSVP! I was beyond pissed. I do not understand why people find it so difficult to RSVP. Its like they do not understand that your guest count has to be in at a certain time for the caterer and venue setup. I paid for 150 people. Invited 160 plus the bridal party of 10. So I had a total count of 170. I was originally going to pay the caterer for 170 people but decided to keep the number at 150. Thank God. Because people didn’t RSVP and if they did some did not show up. We had only 85-90 people including the bridal party. So I should have only paid for 100 people at the maximum. I called and his mom called people who hadn’t RSVPed the week before to see who was coming or not. I could have saved a thousand or two!
I just suggest you call people once and leave it at that. Also do not reserve a spot for them thinking “well what if people just show up” because this is where I messed up.
Post # 23
If they can’t be bothered to reply to repeated RSVP messages, chances are good they are the sort of people who will also find it too much effort to show up on the day. At this point I would be be crystal clear with him that RSVPs are closed and he missed out.
Post # 24
First – your friend is being rude. Second – mark him and his family as a ‘no’. Wedding RSVPs were our biggest nightmare I think!
Post # 25
I wouldn’t assume it is a reflection of his feelings toward you. Some people – even people who love you – are just really
bad at RSVPs. When I was a little younger, I would routinely lose RSVP cards and end up being chased down by an irritated bride at the last minute. It wasn’t that I didn’t care. I was irresponsible and honestly, I didn’t understand how much work goes into wedding planning. Now that I’m having my own wedding, I get those RSVP cards in the mail the day I get them lol.
Post # 26
Please try not to be embarassed. I completely understand (as I’ve felt that way from some of my guests lack of response), but you have a long history with him and it was really sweet of you to invite him and his family. He is the one who should be embarassed. It’s his loss!