(Closed) What to do when waiting for marriage proposal?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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388 posts
Helper bee

This sucks. I’d talk to him again and explain that you want to take the next step and him keeping you in the dark or dragging his feet makes you feel insecure. He may not know you are feeling this upset and if he doesn’t know he may not feel the need to hurry. If he does know how badly you are ready to take the next step then there might be other issues ie he doesn’t want to get married/marry you. If he fully intends on propsing he should give you a firm date. If you are willing, find a ring that is even less expensive and you know he cpuld buy today. Do not accept the “I want to save and get you what you really deserve” shit. The ring is the least important thing right now, what’s important is ascertaining whether or not he’s serious about committing to a life with you. I’m sorry you are having to go through this, waiting can really be the worst. I strongly encourage another conversation with him and if needed maybe you propose to him? 

Post # 3
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431 posts
Helper bee

If he wants to marry you, he can propose without a ring. Just sayin’.

Post # 4
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30 posts
Newbee

I think men have a lot of pressure to make the proposal amazing for the woman. Even if you gave him a cheaper ring option, he could still be hoping to buy you the $4,000 ring. Also, he could be planning a proposal based on a vacation date.

I also think men need to have everything else in their lives lined up before they feel comfortable proposing. He may be waiting for a job promotion, a sick relative to get better, etc..

I would talk frankly and calmly with him. Tell him you’re hoping to have children and you’re getting to the age where time matters. Ask him about his timeline. I know its awkward to have these conversations, but they are necessary before you throw in the towel. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

6 years. I’d be saying, “Either you get serious & we’re engaged in the next month or we have no future together. It’s been 6 years.”

And I wouldn’t say anything else. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m super straight-forward. There’s no way I’d be pussy-footing around this. It’s the rest of your life. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

Is he the kind of guy who says he can’t save up for a $4,000 ring yet has no problem dropping $500 on a home theater system or other new guy toys on a whim? If so, that would be a good indication as to his intentions…many bees come here saying their man “can’t afford the ring you deserve” yet spends tons of money on himself with no problem.

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