(Closed) What to do when you already have a hyphenated name???

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: What should I do?
    Keep my name: SLP : (4 votes)
    19 %
    Take husband's last name: SG : (12 votes)
    57 %
    Keep PART of my name: SLG : (4 votes)
    19 %
    Something amazing and fabulous that I haven't thought of yet! (please explain) : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yikes.. I went a pretty standard route and changed my last name to my husbands and made my maiden name my middle.  I can’t really tell you what to do but I have one concern.  If you became SLG do you think your “P” parent (don’t know if its your mom or dad) would be hurt?

    Post # 4
    2719 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m a traditionalist & am taking my FI’s name (we’re HS sweethearts to!). You could create a whole new name combining both of them, but I’m taking my FI’s name, and am excited! 🙂 You’ll always be SLP, even if your name changes!

    Post # 5
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m feeling the same way, I don’t want to let go of my Italian last name as my Fiance isn’t at all Italian but I want there to be a sense of unity in the house.  I think for myself I’m leaning toward taking my last name as my middle name.  Good luck, I hope others have an answer.

    Post # 7
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yup.. I dropped my middle name (it was Elizabeth which was my mother’s middle name and she also dropped it when she married.. my first daughter’s middle name will also be Elizabeth so it will still have it’s time to shine!).  My last name is also a very unique Greek name… the only people with the name are my immediate family members (mom, dad, bro) so it was hard for me to totally drop it just like you.  Although I didn’t hyphenate I have my full middle name spelled out on all my documentation.. my license, my passport, my business cards.. so I still get to see it frequently but socially I just use my new last name.  I also found it’s way easier to have my maiden name spelled out on my ID because that way if I have something that’s still in my old name, like my car registration is, I can still prove that I am that person.  It’s worked out really well for me.

    Post # 9
    145 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    So I know this post is over a year old, but I figured I’d contribute just in case anyone stumbles upon it…

    I went to high school with a guy who had a hyphenated last name.  When he got married he replaced his mother’s maiden name in the hyphen with his new wife’s maiden name.

    So, John Smith-Jones married Jane Doe and became John Doe-Jones.

    Post # 10
    37 posts
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @KatyInWaiting: I have written a blog about hyphenated last names, and this is just my personal solution to the whole thing. Teach your kids about their hyphenated last name, the reasons for it, and their name choices. I have included this as a solution for those with hyphenated last names (the whole Four last name gasp). Persoanlly my name is spanish style and I am going to continue the tradition, Middle names in Spain can be last names. I will more then be happy if any of my future children want to dump my north irish last name for my spanish last name (the culture I resonate with more is Spanish, but I am super attached to my north irish last name because its so uncommon here, and its mine, nobody who knows me knows my father outside of my family that is). Anyway, That is a very interesting solution. I really like it for some reason, and wouldn’t have a problem with any of my kids doing that. They will all get stuck with Hernandez as their middle name though, just to remind them of the heritage of their mother. 

    For starters my name is: S**** A** H******** C******* and will become: S**** A** H******** C******* – B*******. Just the entire thing, its my entire name, and one of these days, I am certain long names arent’ going to be a problem. 

    In conclusion. Really love that solution, it seems perfect actually. It reminds me of “Leaving your Father and Mother to cleave unto Wife” in the Bible (and that could easily be husband too). Like as a man, he stops carrying his mothers name, and carries wifes-father’s name, and for the Wife she stops carrying the Father’s name and carries husband-mother;s name…or something like that….they would share a name either way…probably hyphenate it the same way.

    Me just rambling. Okay on the name thing I’m just excited, here is to the Future Mr. and Mrs. C******-B*******. (yes I am toasting to myself and my darling fiance)

    Post # 11
    2778 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @currentbee:  This is an interesting solution and one that I may consider…

    Post # 12
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My FI’s has two names. My last name is G and his is G-T you will find a way to make it work, because he has two names I will drop mine. 

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