Post # 1
Okay, I have been to so many bridal stores and for one reason or another I never felt like I wanted to wear one. I got really close once, but the sales lady didn’t pay attention to my budget and pulled a dress that was 6000 dollars over budget. My mother never seems to be interested one way or another and was for awhile only concerned with the price tag. If it was over 200 dollars she wasn’t in to it. My maid of honor told me that I was being too picky and I should just get over myself and choose something. So I resolved that the next time I went to a bridal shop I was going to buy a wedding dress because I was tired of looking and I was tired of feeling like crap because everyone was telling me that I was an being too picky and/or that I needed to just buy a simple maxi dress.
Yesterday I bought a dress I wasn’t in love with because for the first time ever my mom got really excited over the dress. But it was kind of an awful experience, they triple booked the consultant and when we got there she was with another bride. Instead of finishing up with her real quick she came and got us and then walked us through the dresses and kept pulling dresses saying “This would look amazing on someone your size.” and I tried to tell her what I like, but she was so busy in between her brides that she didn’t listen and kept grabbing dresses that I hated. She ended up leaving us several times and since we weren’t allowed to pull dresses I was stuck sitting in dresses waiting. Until finally I asked my mom to go grab a dress I saw on the rack that was super pretty and champagne, but I tried it on and I didn’t feel anything. It looked nice and my mother loved it, which was a first. I was tired and just didn’t want to fight with her or have to go to another bridal salon so I just said yes. The consultant was trying to rush us anyway and whenever she managed to get time to come over she would loudly proclaim that whatever dress I was wearing was gorgeous and it was perfect for me. So I said yes and bought it, but the whole time I kept feeling just bad about it.
I’m trying to be positive and think of ways I can make it better. Do any other bees have dresses that they didn’t love at first? I keep reminding myself that it’s not that big of a deal and I really shouldn’t be so sad.
Any advice and/or thoughts would be appreciated.
Post # 2
I did not really like white wedding dresses, but my mom was dying to see me in one, so we went to DB and she pressured me into buying one she liked. It is beautiful, and I looked pretty, but I couldn’t get enthusiastic about it. I decided to sell it at a consignment shop and had my friend make a dress that I LOVED. Maybe don’t involve your mom and think outside the “wedding dress” box and look at other things you could wear. My friend is a Pakistani designer who made me a traditional Lucknow gharara in blues and ivory, for example.
Post # 3
I would suggest that you ask the salon if you can exchange the dress considering the not so ideal circumstances you experienced. If they agree, I’d go back to the salon alone and take your time finding a dress you love. This is your day and you need to feel amazing in your dress! Good luck and give us an update!
Post # 4
It doesn’t sound like you found the best dress for you, sorry bee, I think you should go looking alone without your mother and trust your own instincts.
Post # 5
your dress probably hasn’t been ordered yet by the salon. I would contact them ASAP and explain the situation, book an appointment on one of their slow days if you can (ie during the week) and go alone to see what feels right for you 🙂 They should be able to credit your deposit for a new dress. Best of luck and I am sure you will find an amazing dress!
Post # 6
Do you have a picture?
It sounds like a strange experience. I would suggest going back and speaking to a manager. Explain honestly what happened and that you felt obligated. Most good bridal salons don’t want you to feel pressured.
I had several strange experiences finding a dress and I finally found one I loved. It is more of an evening gown than a wedding dress but it is me!
Post # 7
if you really dislike it, I’d see if the store can let you choose something else, so I’d call them quickly….but either way, can you show pictures? I’m sure it’s a wonderful dress, maybe it just needs to be jacked up with a veil and accessories
Post # 8
FIRST, Call the salon ASAP and cancel your order. Are you having a non-traditional wedding where a bridal gown will be out of place or not required? I feel like there are so many different styles of dresses that there is something for everyone who wants one. I think that you should spend some time thinking about your wedding day and what makes sence, then return to the salon by yourself on a day when they are not busy. Also go to different salons. I found some that I did not know about by finding them on the desinger’s website. Once you find a few that you like then bring your mom if you think she will be supportive.