Post # 1
I am at hard place and I really need some advice about this. It is a hard post to write but my wedding weekend was far from my dream. Saturday was our rehearsal and the bride and groom where not the center of attention. When we got the restuarant everyone else had sat and left me and the groom off at and end table with no one else around. My parents came and sat next to us because they felt bad that we happened to be alone. I could go on about how else it sucked but that is the highlight.
Our wedding looked amazing and the ceremony was outstanding. However, it was hot and a Sunday afternoon so lots of people left right after dinner. We had asked his parents previously to do the break down AFTER the wedding. Well 2 hours before the reception ended they had taken all of my decor down and broke all the tables down. People lost belongings due to this and I ended up in tears for about 30 mins. They broke several of my centerpieces and other parts of the decor because they just tossed things in the boxes without wrapping them. It just really ened up being a huge bust.
His family pretty much excluded me all weekend. They posted over 400 pics from the weekend and I am in 3 of them and 1 is a single pic of me and my husband. I can’t help but cry because I do not have a single picture of me and his parents or any other member of his family. I want to say something to his family but I know there is no reason and it wont change anything.
My main reason for this post is how should I handle the factor that everyone wants to talk about my wedding and in all reality I have very few high points from my wedding. I could talk forever about how great the ceremony was but please don’t ask about anything else.
Post # 3
Oh another odd little thing on the wedding day is my MOH’s husband got in a wreck 1/2 block from my venue and the cops had to come and get him at the venue because of how close it was to the start of the wedding….good thing I was 15 mins late or I would have had cops in the middle of the wedding.
Post # 4
My first wedding was completely destroyed by a sand storm. I lost all my flowers, runner rugs, chairs, all the decorations. Gone.
Sooo, from experience, it really sucks when your wedding is a disaster. But…time makes it seem not so bad. It finally got to the point where we could joke about it. Your HUSBAND LOVES YOU. How cool is it that you get to call him your HUSBAND now?!? And when it comes down to it, that is all that matters about a wedding. You guys are married now, you’ll live happily ever after. F*** the rest of em, focus on how much you love him.
I’m sorry about your wedding, especially about the pics though. Did someone else take pics? I hope you have some good ones!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry! Sounds like you got a very rude introduction to your new in-law family. Their behavior absolutely shocks me. They are a very selfish bunch.
As far as what they post on Facebook, that’s their issue and you don’t have to care about that.
At least you have your husband. I know this is poor consolation right now, but the importance of the actual wedding day will diminish. Make sure you have lots and lots of pictures from the day that make you happy, because those pictures will influence what you remember about the day. Trust me on this! If you didn’t have a photographer or didn’t get a lot of good pictures, then go put on your dress again and get some good pictures taken of you and your husband and all the individual items that went into the wedding decor.
Post # 6
I just had this whole thing written about how bizarre all of that is and how I’m so sorry and then my post didn’t work :/ but I guess the best you can to is tell people that it was incredible that you got to marry the love of your life and then move on. It sounds like you guys need some time together, just the two of you- maybe in a few weeks looking back it wont seem as bad
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
Aww reading all of this broke my heart. You can’t go back and do it over, and although you’re wedding wasn’t perfect.. I hope that your marriage is!!! 🙂
Post # 8
I’m so sorry things didn’t turn out the way you’d have liked. I’m not sure the best way to answer that question when folks bring it up, but perhaps just focus on a few of the highlights: great ceremony, an amazing new husband, and then talk about how you’re so excited for the honeymoon (or some other future thing). That should change the track of the convo for whoever asked. I’m sorry his family was being like that, but hopefully that part of the memory will fade and what you’ll be able to focus on are the great parts that made you smile.