Post # 1
What do you do when you hate your job?
I’m doing what I went to school for… but I hate where I am doing it!
The money is quite good for the area and I think I was pretty lucky to do so well out of school and I know that if I leave this place I will not find a job that pays as well. I am kind of ok with that if I can have a normal life and not hate my job.
The main problem is its retail.. While I work mostly days the days are really long.. usually 10.5 hour days (with an hour lunch) then add on 1 hour total drive time. I get no holidays off. So when everyone else is loving the fact that they get an extra day off for stuff I’m stuck working even harder. I work every other Saturday… which isn’t bad but it leave only 2 weeks a month to really try and do something socially because I am always tired and never end of doing anything the weekend that I work on Saturdays. Meanwhile hubby is off every weekend and most federal holidays. Oh and back to the tired thing… I’m always exhaused… I have to get up at 5:30am to be at work on time.. then by the time I get home after 6.. I am exhaused and grumpy…
I know everyones simple answer is “update your resume and start interviewing”… easier said then done. I also have a pretty bad anxiety problem that is much worse in unknown situations… such as interviewing and not to mention I am not a good interviewer. I am a very hard and diligent worker but that is hard to express when I am so nervous in in interview. So I kinda feel stuck but need to start thinking about doing something because I can’t be unhappy all the time. Its not good for me and its not good for my marriage either. I just want to find an office job where I can work “normal” hours and come home and not be so stressed out and tired!
Post # 3
You have to be a nurse, right? You sound like your a nurse, haha!
I’m a nurse. I worked every other Sunday and never had two days in a row off. I commuted 1hr to work and about 1.5hours home and had to be up at 5:15am to leave by 5:45 and get to work by 6:45.
Eventually, from being put in an unsafe condition, I herniated a disc in my back and have been out of work for about 15 weeks so far.
That being said, where I live, I’m lucky to even have a job. So, I suck it up. But keep in mind that you should update your resume and apply to every job you can….is there any way that you can swap your Saturday? Trust me, I know how absolutely sucky it is to never feel like you have time off.
Post # 4
@Miss Orchard: lol no I am an HR Manager for a retail corporation
Post # 5
I know that job hunting is easier said than done – I’m in a job hunting position right now – but you have to be proactive and really try to make the change for yourself or it won’t ever happen. If you don’t ever take the steps you need to update your resume and interview and really go after you what you want, then you may not ever get it. I don’t want to sound harsh in any way, I’m just trying to be a little bit of a pushy motivator.
Post # 6
@karissa2558: Wait, are you a lawyer? Working weekends and holidays, and long hours sounds like my job. 😉
I think the thing is, honestly, work just kind of sucks. Sadly it’s rare to find someone who LOVES his/her job. That’s why it’s called WORK and not play! If you don’t do well in interviews, then you’re going to have to either (1) suck it up at your current job and try to find other ways outside of work to make you happy (get massages and facials, plan special dates with your SO so you can have something to look forward to) or (2) do something to work on your anxiety so you can perform better in interviews. Perhaps you can have your SO run through some practice interviews with you so you can get more comfortable with the setting.
I kind of agree with AlizaFal – if you’re not willing to take the initiative and take action to change your current situation, then don’t complain about it. I say that with good intentions!
Post # 7
OP, I feel your pain. My job culture and expectations have changed radically in the past year and while until very recently I used to be very happy and satisfied at work, I’ve been miserable — beyond miserable — for the past nine months or so. I don’t see it getting better in the foreseeable future.
The only thing I would add to the advice that’s already been given here is … save AGGRESSIVELY for the future, and for the future possibility that maybe it won’t always be a bed of roses in your career. Pile that money away and that will eventually give you power. Is it at all possible for you and Darling Husband to downsize your lifestyle, such that you could live on one of your incomes and bank the other’s income?
Because, while it would be lovely if you could search around and find a job you like better — the ultimate freedom is having the choice to work full-time, part-time or not at all. I have made many mistakes with personal finances in the past — fortunately my Darling Husband is the opposite of me in that regard. Long before we ever met, he always lived below his means, invested heavily and now at the age of 53 he has so much money put away that he could probably retire now if he wanted to. However he loves his work, so he’s in no hurry. I’m very fortunate though that his wise choices will probably enable me to retire earlier than I would have otherwise.
I’m 50 years old and at this point in my life, it would not make sense for me to switch careers. I’m just going to try to tough it out for a few more years until I can start collecting my pension. You’re probably much younger than I am… so do think about making that effort to find a different job that will at least free up more of your personal time. I agree with the PP who suggested that maybe you could practice interview techniques with your Darling Husband.
Post # 9
@karissa2558: I’m with you on the anxiety problem. It’s so hard to meet new people and be comfortable with it. Try to greet people more that you see here and there i.e. How’s your day or if you find yourself complimenting someone’s shirt in your head say it out loud, they will most likely appreciate it and then you’ll feel the positive energy too… my husband did this and it’s good practice.