(Closed) what to do when your MOH dies :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

That has to be hard, I think your sil would be a good choice if.you have to have a witness. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is only something you can decide. Especially considering we do not know details. Do you have a problem with your SIL being witness? It would likely be a nice gesture to her.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Oh honey, I am so sorry 🙁 if you have another close friend or family member, that’s who I would choose. If you and fsil are close i would ask her. 

HUGS

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m very sorry for your loss.  That is nice of your SIL.  Perhaps you’d like to carry something of/from your Maid/Matron of Honor in your bouquet, or a small photo? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@perfectpair:  Firstly, my condolences to you! Secondly, I would utilize your Future Sister-In-Law if she is willing, or another close friend of yours if you’d like.  No one could “replace” your intended Maid/Matron of Honor, but letting other people in on your special day could not only be helpful logistically, but be emotionally helpful as well. Hugs! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@perfectpair:  oh my goodness…first, I am sorry for your loss. I understand not replacing her, but what about having her there for you ‘in spirit’ by incorporating the lighting of a hanging candle in her place? Your sister in law can then do the signing part without feeling she is taking her place and perhaps you will feel your friend is with you?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First of all, I’m so so sorry – that’s really heart breaking. I find it painful to even think about what I would do in a similar situation, but I think I would have accepted the offer from you Future Sister-In-Law. She came through in a difficult situation and it’s not like you’re actively going out trying to find a replacement. If you feel comfortable with having her as your Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s probably the least painful and awkward route to take. Wishing you the very best!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry to hear this. I think your SIL or a close friend is the best bet.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@perfectpair: I am so very sorry to hear this!! This is heart breaking! I can’t even imagine having to make a decision like that. Do you have siblings? Or does your Fiance have siblings that can serve as witnesses? I know choosing between parents might be difficult. HUGS!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@perfectpair:  I’m so sorry for you loss.

The truth is witnessing the marriage is a trivial thing. Any adult guest can do it and it is merely tradition that the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best man usually do. I’ve been to a wedding with no bridal party, and the two fathers were the witnesses. (One of the mothers was deceased). But it could have been anyone.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. <3

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