Post # 1
what do you do when your Maid/Matron of Honor dies? my very best friend passed away recently and we are getting married in june….small wedding, no BM’s. will not replace her but need to figure out who will be my witness.my soon to be sil says she will do it.thoughts??
Post # 3
That has to be hard, I think your sil would be a good choice if.you have to have a witness.
Post # 4
This is only something you can decide. Especially considering we do not know details. Do you have a problem with your SIL being witness? It would likely be a nice gesture to her.
Post # 5
Oh honey, I am so sorry 🙁 if you have another close friend or family member, that’s who I would choose. If you and fsil are close i would ask her.
Post # 6
I’m very sorry for your loss. That is nice of your SIL. Perhaps you’d like to carry something of/from your Maid/Matron of Honor in your bouquet, or a small photo?
Post # 7
@perfectpair: Firstly, my condolences to you! Secondly, I would utilize your Future Sister-In-Law if she is willing, or another close friend of yours if you’d like. No one could “replace” your intended Maid/Matron of Honor, but letting other people in on your special day could not only be helpful logistically, but be emotionally helpful as well. Hugs!
Post # 8
@perfectpair: oh my goodness…first, I am sorry for your loss. I understand not replacing her, but what about having her there for you ‘in spirit’ by incorporating the lighting of a hanging candle in her place? Your sister in law can then do the signing part without feeling she is taking her place and perhaps you will feel your friend is with you?
Post # 9
First of all, I’m so so sorry – that’s really heart breaking. I find it painful to even think about what I would do in a similar situation, but I think I would have accepted the offer from you Future Sister-In-Law. She came through in a difficult situation and it’s not like you’re actively going out trying to find a replacement. If you feel comfortable with having her as your Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s probably the least painful and awkward route to take. Wishing you the very best!
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear this. I think your SIL or a close friend is the best bet.
Post # 11
@perfectpair: I am so very sorry to hear this!! This is heart breaking! I can’t even imagine having to make a decision like that. Do you have siblings? Or does your Fiance have siblings that can serve as witnesses? I know choosing between parents might be difficult. HUGS!
Post # 12
@perfectpair: I’m so sorry for you loss.
The truth is witnessing the marriage is a trivial thing. Any adult guest can do it and it is merely tradition that the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best man usually do. I’ve been to a wedding with no bridal party, and the two fathers were the witnesses. (One of the mothers was deceased). But it could have been anyone.
Post # 13
thanks everyone……a bit more info about the wedding:my father is also deceased, so bf and i will arrive together and we are not having a traditional wedding in the sense that people ie moh gm etc stand with you. they will be seated in the front with his parents, gramma and my mom. i intend to still have her chair their and put her fav flowers in some kinda arrangement or something like that. i know it really doesnt matter who is the witness but it does to me. i have 2 brothers and i was bestman at my middle bro’s wedding and think maybe him. i have a good relationship with my sil but she lives in another province so i dont see her much. might just wait til the day of and wing it.
weddings are suppose to be happy times. i was having a hard time with my dad not being there as he would have been over the moon excited. and now not to have my best friend of over 25yrs there is too much.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. <3