Post # 1
Currently a close friend of mine is staying at my place for a while. A close mutual friend of ours is getting married and just sent out invitations. I was invited, but my roommate wasn’t. I really want to go to this wedding and show my support for my friend who’s getting married, but I’m afraid of hurting my roommate’s feelings. What should I do?
Post # 2
Not really your responsibility to play damage control for your friend’s guest list. Just don’t rub it in your roommate’s face.
Post # 3
Just go quietly and don’t relay how much fun it was at length or anything. It’s not really your problem!
Post # 4
Unfortunately that’s just a part of life. I was just invited to a former coworker’s wedding and it appears that some other coworkers who she was also close with aren’t invited–I wouldn’t dream of not being there for her because she chose for whatever reason not to invite someone else. I’m not going to go on and on about it or anything, but I’m definitely going to go and enjoy myself.
Post # 5
Umm go, let your roomate and that person work out their own issues.
Post # 6
I’d go. Not every person can get invited to every wedding; hopefully your roommate can understand that.
Post # 7
Just because you allow a friend to stay at your place, there is no obligation to share 100% of your social life.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry. They are grown ups. Maybe they aren’t that close? Or the Bride feels like they aren’t that close
Post # 9
I would go but don’t make a big deal about it infront of your roommate. Who knows what the dynamics of their relationship is, maybe there’s a reason they weren’t invited. Does your roommate know you have been invited?
Post # 10
Yep, just go without making a big fuss about it. Is it possible that wedding friend doesn’t realize roommate friend is staying with you? Therefore the invite went astray? I’m not sure I’d look into that b/c it’ll look like fishing, but just a thought.
Post # 12
Thanks for the input. The detailed situation is that my roommate likes my friend who’s getting married and thinks everything is great, but my friend who’s getting married doesn’t like my roommate. I still have no idea why. And my roommate doesn’t know that our mutual friend doesn’t like her. I don’t want to get involved in their issues, so I haven’t been pushing it, but since we’re living together now, I was just worried about her getting hurt. I guess I’ll just mention once that I was invited/plan to go, and then not bring it up again, and just go. (and try not to rub it in)
Thank you for your advice!
Post # 13
I woulnd’t even bring it up unless your roommate does, and if she does, just say that you’re going and if she’s upset to take it up with the bride.