(Closed) What to do while song is sung?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If the congregation stands for the song, problem solved  You could also have chairs by the altar so the two of you can sit down.  In Belgium, apparently the bride and groom sit on thrones to show that they are king and queen for the day.

Post # 4
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m having the same dilemma!  I’d like to have a soloist during the ceremony but can’t decide what do do while she sings.  My mom has suggested having her sing prior to my processional (but I really want to see and hear her!), so TBD.  I want to follow your post to see what suggestions people have!

Post # 6
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@AmandaShea8:  …well, you’re going to hold hands and look into each other’s eyes…but that’s either going to make one or both of you cry or break into laughter….cause honestly, how long can you do that before one of you makes a face?….then you’re going to fight the urge to look around, but its super important that you don’t, because the entire congregation is going to be staring at you, wondering if its the whole song, or an edited version…cause we don’t know what we’re supposed to be doing either…..

I’ve always been a HUGE advocate of adding some entertaining element to this portion of ceremonies because it does get awkward….the roses are a good idea….I like to see the bride and groom looking at each other, I was at a wedding where they hugged and kissed their wedding parties….it was nice…I mean, they’re all up there right?  Might as well hug…or something.

Post # 8
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Is moving the song to the reception as part of the entertainment an option?

Post # 10
1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I just did this for my wedding earlier this month.  We did the whole standing there and holding hands looking at each other thing, there was a lot of laughter, but that was mostly b/c we had our dog there who kept trying to get over to us 🙂 Actually, everyone was laughing for the most part.

It wasn’t too bad- just wished I had asked for a different song, but I went with what our singer could sing (mom’s best friend)



Post # 11
2069 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

At my friend’s wedding her cousin sang “To Make You Feel My Love” while they were singing the paperwork and taking photos of said paperwork. Not a try eye. I thought it was amazing and a good way to fill that void but do two things at once.

Personally I’d be weirded out if a bride and groom were just staring longingly at one another while a song was sung.

Post # 12
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@AmandaShea8:  Communion….this is non-related, but will probably make you laugh.

I was invited to a Catholic wedding with the full mass once, and while I may be worldy, I am not godly, and being raised in a house of intellectuals, I was encouraged to find the faith, if any, that worked for me.  I was drawn to the teaching of Buddha and never looked back, so I hadn’t even been to a baptism, and all the other weddings I had attended weren’t terribly religious aside from taking place in a church…

So you can imagine how bizarre and confused I was to find myself in the middle of a Catholic Church, during a mass, in latin of all things…..and it just.kept.going….stand up, sit down, kneel, turn around, sing a song and watch the bride and groom walk in a circle…CRAZY!

So then….its time for communion…I have no idea what this is by the way, everyone is lining up, they’ve got this stuff up there, he’s tossing it in people’s mouths….they walk out the side, come down the back….I am flummoxed… 

I ask my Dad, “What the hell is this?”

Him: “It’s snack time”

Me: “Rock on!”

Him: “We don’t qualify for snack…”

Me: “We don’t?”

Him: “Nope.”

Me: “Dammit.”

Him: “Yup”

Me:  “Are we almost done?  Are they married yet?”

Him: “Almost, but then we gotta sit through the rest of the ceremony.”

Me:  “How long is that?”

Him:  “Another hour at least.”

Me:  “Holy shit…”

Him:  “My thoughts exactly.”

Either way….it was the longest wedding I’ve ever been to, and when the bride and groom took another three hours just to get to the venue, we left, because I was starving to death….

So…if you want to take communion, I say go for it, it can’t be any weirder than anything else someone might do during the song.

Post # 16
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Nona99:  Honestly, this was not funny.  Just insensitive.

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