(Closed) What to do with an extra flower girl?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?

    Compromise - have her hand out bubbles

    Full flower girl

    Just included in the "girl time"

  • Post # 4
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We have a couple of my FI’s cousin’s girls doing what we call “Celebration Girls” – they’re helping to hand out programs and hand out bubbles afterwards. They get all the “perks” of being a flower girl (gifts, corsage, etc.) they just don’t have to walk down the aisle. 

    Post # 5
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it kinda depends on what “Madeline” has been told. If she thinks she is going to get to be a flower girl, then she’ll probably be very sad and disappointed if she only gets to pass out bubbles or hangout.

    Post # 6
    994 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Um, she’s three. I don’t think she’s “not that bright” but that you can’t expect much from such a little one.


    Post # 7
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We are having 2 flower girls, but they will be ages 6 and 7.  Ours will walk down the aisle togther and wear the same dresses.

    I would be just as worried about a 3 year old passing out bubbles as walking down the aisle. A lot of kida are shy and that could effect either task.  

    I also think it’s a little weird since you don’t even know this kid.  Just because her mother bought her a pretty dress, I’m not sure that elevates her to flower girl status. 

    Now, no matter what you decide, I think it will be fine, just make a decision you can live with and stick with it.  But if it were me, I would retract the three year old’s offer. I would tell my mother first and explain that you’re excited about the photographer and are sure the little girl will look adorable.  You can suggest the bubble idea as well, but remember, at the actual event, the kid might be shy about going up to strangers to give our bubbles, so have a contingency basket people can take them from or something.  After I spoke with my mother, I would either have her call the photographer or call her myself.  Explain that you are sure the kid will look beautifula nd you are excited she is attending the wedding and are so excited that the photographer will be playing a part as well.  Flatter her some by saying you love her work or something.  But then say that you had already made plans for a flower girl and felt on the spot and caught of guard when your mother initially asked about it.  While she would be adorable, maybe there is something else that would work better and then suggest the bubble idea.

    I actually think it’s a little inappropriate of you mother to ask to put a strangers kid in the wedding just because she’s cute.  


    good luck!

    Post # 8
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Did your mom even talk to the photographer/cousin about the flower girl thing?  If not, tell mom to forget it.  Otherwise, she will probably be disappointed.

    I had our 3 nieces as flower girls–3, 4 and 7.  They all did just fine.  The 3 year old had no problem tossing flowers.

    Post # 10
    4802 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think she should be a full flower girl since that’s kind of what you offered 🙂 I think it will be cute and not overdoing it at all.

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