Post # 1
My mother has suggested we do an Engagement Shower instead of doing an Engagement Party and a Bridal shower. Sounds good to me. But she and my fiance have also said I shouldn’t register for gifts… for party or for wedding. Mostly because we already live together and have for the past 7 years so there’s not really anything we NEED. Back on track. We’re having a small private wedding, so typically I shouldn’t invite anyone that I’m not inviting to the wedding. My grandma has said she needs to throw (I need to throw) some sort of party to invite all of my cousins and aunts and the whole freakin world to this shin-dig. Well none of these people will be invited to my wedding. What to do?
(This got sort of Ramble-y… sorry. Jumbled thoughts lead to jumbled postings )
Post # 3
As for the shower, I would still register. People are going to ask and they are going to get you a gift regardless, so you might as well get something you would use. Just try and use the mindset and register for things you would purchase yourself in the next year or so.
As for the cousins, why not have an after party celebration. Maybe after your honeymoon. Just send them an announcement and say hey we were hitched, now we want you to celebrate with us. It can be very informal, an even a covered dish type thing.
Post # 4
Only skip registering if you’re sure there’s nothing you need. I was surprised at how many of our things were starting to wear down. Many of the things on our registry are things we’d like to have, but more are things we need and will probably get if they’re not purchased for us – and we’ve lived on our own and together.
But if you’re worried about the people not being invited to the wedding but invited to the shower, you could always just disclose the registry if they ask (some people gift even when not invited), or only to the people going to the wedding.