(Closed) What to do with FBIL girlfriend

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

It seems like, with an August wedding for NEXT year, you still have plenty of time!  A singing role sounds great, but if you really wanted her IN the wedding, could you find out from your brother approximately when he’d be proposing?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Your wedding date is a year from now – definitely take a step back and give it some time. In the meanwhile you can ask your other bridesmaids and if you are sending group emails, include her, but don’t technically ask until it’s ok. I’m sure the boyfriend will propose very soon, those things tend to burn a hole through any kind of material 😉

Post # 5
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, seeing as how your wedding is in 1 year, I wouldn’t do anything yet! Give it another month.

I think acknowledging hre with singing at your wedding instead of a bridesmaid isn’t near the fun and honor of being a bridesmaid.

You got PLENTY of time, really.

Post # 6
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815 posts
Busy bee

I think that asking her to sing is a great idea!  It is definately meaningful, and thoughtful of you to ask her. 

Do you guys talk about wedding-related things?  Because if you wait until she is engaged to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, it might seem a little strange to her.  If I was her I would wonder why you had an odd number of attendants.  Just sayin…

I just realized that it’s next August.  You should have plenty of time to ask her!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You can wait a while before asking her.  If you’re close though I don’t think that HAS to mean he’s proposing.  If you’d rather ask her to fill another role like singing, that seems acceptable too.  Then she’s already planning on participating and you can add the bridesmaid duty later or something.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Definitely wait if the BIL has asked your to wait.  But personally I don’t think asking her to be Bridesmaid or Best Man will be a clue that he’s going to propose especially if yall are all super close and they’re in a committed relationship 🙂  Either way, you should definitely ask her to sing in the wedding I’m sure she would feel honored and you can ask her now which may give her a little boost and something happy to look forward to while she deals with her family’s issues.

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