(Closed) What to do with FMIL??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46383 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just say no.

Keep repeating that you want her to be a guest at her son’s wedding, not a worker. Don’t go into other explanations or reasons, as that just gives her an opening to counter.

She made the choices for her wedding. You get to make the choices for your wedding.


Post # 4
9669 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh, dear, I feel for you.  But don’t let her do that, she’s not qualified, lol . . . if you want a professional it’s your right to have one.  As far as being gentle with her about it, just be gentle with her about it.  In fact you may want to have your Fiance break it to her and put it exactly as you stated, that you both want her to have a place of honor and not be “working” on that day.

It’s your wedding so it is entirely up to you, regardless of her opinion, to have it the way you want it.  And it’s very sweet of you to be taking her feelings into consideration.  As far as dealing with the stepmom issue, the stepmom is just as welcome and valid a person to be at your wedding as she is.  Hopefully as a mature adult she won’t give anyone a hard time about anything.

Best of luck to you!


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