Post # 1
I use the term ‘heirloom’ loosly as these items don’t actually have value to most of my family, but they’re now mine and I don’t know what to do with it (and I know there’s more coming).
I have a gorgeous 1.2ct diamond solitare that was OEC but was modified (Badly) to a modern brilliant cut that was my Great Grandmothers – the trick…it’s not from my great grandfather (I’m not sure who has her actual wedding set). This ring was given to her by a man who is suspected to be the real love of her life, but she didn’t marry him – the belief is that her parents pressured her to marry my great grandfather as it was a better match (Business and society…).
I also have my mom’s engagement ring (.25ct) my parents divorced in 2003 after 23 years of marriage. I have weird feelings about that ring…she told me it’s mine to do with as I please.
I’m just curious what other people do with these types of pieces with strange histories.
Post # 2
MsGinkgo: I have rings that belonged to each of my grandmothers that I wear regularly as my RHR (not diamond though…one is turquoise and the other is a big, beautiful emerald cut topaz). I also have my mom’s wedding ring from my biological dad (she gave it to me when I was 16) as well as her “divorce” ring that she bought herself after they divorced. I wear those both as RHR’s as well…i know their marriage may not have ended well or lasted, but its the only part of “them” that I have. So I cherish it regardless. I’m that sentimental person though…I also have my great grandmothers wedding band as my wedding band. So you can tell 1) I love jewlery and 2) I love jewelry that belonged to my family. In my eyes it keeps them with me 🙂
Post # 3
hazyleyedbeauty: that’s sweet. I think part of my ‘issue’ is that these are so obviously engagement rings. I’ve worn my great grandmothers a couple of times as a RHR but not since I got my ering – I feel like they compete. Although mine LOOKS bigger, hers is actually bigger (and I know Darling Husband doesn’t like that – he’s funny about these things). They’re also yellow and my set is white.
Post # 4
I feel like we need pix!!
Post # 5
I would just put them away in your jewelry box and wear them from time to time. They will always be special to you because they are passed down from your Mom and Grandma.Get your own engagement ring and build your own memories.
Post # 6
You can wear them if you like their curent style
OR go to a jeweller (an independent who does custom work) and remake them into something that you will love and wear occasionally. You might even be able to trade them in for something that would be more your style (I wouldn’t recommend this if they were sentimental, but they are not).
You can have a pendant made, or earrings, or use them (and other stones/metals) to create a RHR for yourself.
Post # 7
MissCaraMia: I don’t have any here – I posted some of my great grandmother’s before. I’ll try and remember to post some when I get home. Maybe I’ll post some of my other random gifted jewellery too.
Yammi1: I have my wedding set, which I adore. At the wedding I wore my mom’s mom’s wedding band as my something old & borrowed (I think I will eventually have that as well, but for now my mom wears it every day)
Post # 8
I would suggest you choose a piece of jewelry you would actually wear and have the stones reset. The only thing I’d suggest is that you keep the original settings, for sentimental reasons and in case you ever change your mind. My mum reset her diamonds from her wedding set into a different style and I am SO glad she kept her original setting in her lock box at the bank. I know I will inherit that ring (though I certainly hope that doesn’t happen anytime soon!), and I want to put the original back together.
Post # 9
MsGinkgo: Have Brian Gavin or someone look at recutting your 1.2 to improve its performance and set it into a pendant or save it for a son / daughter.
I’d try to find a matching stone for your mom’s .25 and have it made into earrings.