Post # 1
Hey Bees last time I posted was a very delicate subject for me. The Hate my dear Mommy in law has for me.
My family relations are not perfect. But My wedding was. I had a perfect winter wonderland themed wedding. Big christmas tree lots of white flowers a candy bar. And the DJ by fat the best Dj in the history of weddings.
Anyways I am finding myself In a Dilema. My mom wore a dress identical to what The Duchess of Cambridge wore. Beautiful dress. It was the dress my grandmother had used. And I dreamed for years that it was the dress I would wear to my wedding.
The Duchess of Cambridge decided diferently when she came to my mom’s closet and stole it. Lol Bad Joke anyways we couldnt find the dress. I cried my mom cried we all cried. After lots of crying. My then Fiance said to stop crying and that he would buy me any dress I wanted. Wel honey be careful what you wish for:
I bought the beautiful “Esther” From vera wang. I purchased the dress strapless and added a Bolero. The total came to 15,000 with the removable bolero and alterations. The dress is a dream I still look at it in my closet.
It bothers my. What is a beautiful perfect dress doing in the closet when a lot of brides dream of wearing it and cant Afford it. I might have daugthers that will want to wear in a few years but what if they dont? What if it only gets old in a closet and nobody gets to see it again.
Here comes my dilema and this is the moment I ask for your help. Here are the options I am exploring:
1. Selling the dress http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com
This is my idea but I have no idea if there would be people interested
2.I was thinking of creating a contest. Where brides would write a short essay as to why my dress will complete their perfect wedding. And having them agree to return the dress once they have worn it. They can alter it to fit their sizes and heights. It is more in the sense of filling my dress’s purpose. Making another bride happy. While my dress returns to me in the end.
is this a silly idea?
3. Leaving it in the closet and waiting for someone in the family to love it.
4. Other ideas?
I really need advice on this one. Thanks a lot for the advice bees.
Post # 3
What about some sort of auction for charity, or donating the money or dress to a nonprofit? That’s a lot of money, it could feed a lot of hungry children or help a domestic violence shelter get a new bed or something like that!
But I do like the idea you have, because you get to get it back afterwards… I would probably lean towards that one. I would just be nervous that it would get messed up, or I wouldn’t get it back!
Post # 4
I think you should either auction it for charity, or keep it in the family for someone else to love it one day. It’s a beautiful, classic looking dress and I’m sure down the line, someone would love to wear it, the way you would have wanted to wear your mother’s dress. I think that lending it to another bride ideally sounds like a nice idea, but there could be all sorts of things that might go wrong before it came back to your hands. Would you be devestated if it came back stained, torn, etc …?
Post # 5
yeah i think letting someone “borrow” it for a contest could easily cause problems since you want it back.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
While the lending idea is very sweet of you, I can definitely see it causing problems (what if the bride doesn’t want to return it? issues with shipping? what if the dress gets damaged while the other bride has it?). Perhaps take a note of how sad you and your mother were when you couldn’t find her dress, and keep your own dress for future generations or anyone else in your family!
Post # 7
You know how people beat up rentals cars?
I wouldn’t lend it unless you don’t want it back.
Can you frame it?
They make those wedding dress frames/shadow box things so you can display it!
And the more your future DDs see it, the more they’ll want to wear it when they get married!
Post # 8
You guys are so right!!!! We ll see what happens. It is more of a Share the experience. My mom owns a Hospital for people without means in Mexico and abandoned elderly. She also runs 2 free daycares for single moms with very low income. So I am a big charity person.
I believe in changing lives one person at the time and making as many donations as one possibly can.
My idea was to share the dream. Not really get like money from it , I dont know if you guys understand what I mean. I had an amazing perfect wedding because my Father could afford it. Because my husbands gives me everything I want.
So my dream was ..is helping some girl get her dream dress….
We ll see maybe there arent girls interested in wearing my dress.
Post # 9
I think it’s incredible that you want to share your beautiful gown with those who might not otherwise be able to afford one like it. You might check out Jenny Lawson’s “Traveling Red Dress” project via Facebook or her blog (thebloggess.com) She started with one dress that she sent to people who needed to feel good about themselves due to life events, surgeries, illness, etc. Other people started donating additional red dresses, and now it’s spreading like wildfire. This might help you work out logistics. Hope you are able to work this out – what a generous heart you have!
Post # 10
@TexasAggieMom: I just read your post it is a great idea.Thank you for sharing it with me.
Post # 11
Hi there! I just posted about this dress and then saw your post! Is it too late to ask what you have done with your Esther dress?