Post # 1
Good Morning Bees!
I know there are a million threads about Bridesmaid gifts, but I couldn’t find anything pertaining to my question.
Back in July when we went Bridesmaid dress shopping, I had put together some gifts for my girls. I got them all some personal items (nobody got the same thing) and had tote bags made with their names embroidered on them. I spent about $75-$85 on each girl and significantly more on my Maid/Matron of Honor. Long story short, I didn’t end up giving them their gifts b/c 3 out of 4 girls showed pretty clearly that they did not want to be there. So instead of going to lunch as planned, they decided to go home.
So now I have these gifts for them and don’t know when to give them to them. My shower is just about 3 months away and I want to give something for hosting it, but I think that these gifts are too much for a hostess gift (except my MOH). Should I include their previous gifts in their final gifts? I would be getting them more on top of what I currently have. To give you an example of the gifts, I got my sister (just a BM) an owl cookie jar and pot holders from Anthropologie, some Bed Head for Dogs Shampoo (she’s obsessed with her dog), a cute garden trowel and gloves (Which are useless now that it’s fall…) and some ginger bath soap. If I save their gifts for their final gifts for the wedding, I would get a gift card probably for each Bridesmaid or Best Man for hosting the shower. What do you think Bees??
It might be useful if I mention that I did get them all really nice gifts when I had a Meet the Maids dinner back in May….
Post # 3
@EmilyJoy: You’re a very giving bride! My bm and moh will be getting personalised flutes kind of as their bonbnairre but there’s a candy bar too. And I might get them a piece of nice jewellery too and give it to them morning of, but that’s it haha.
I would say if they are still bms and you have resolved the issues, just give them those gifts at the shower. It doesn’t matter at which event you give them a gift IMO.
Post # 4
I would give those gifts as a thank you for being in the wedding. We gave out our gifts at the rehersal dinner.
Post # 5
@FutureMrsHallam: I LOVE the personalized flutes!! What a great idea, and I think it’s something you can use forever! I think those are lovely gifts and I would love to receive them! I was just in a wedding with a Bridezilla, so I really wanted to show my girls how much I appreciated them, so I may have gone overboard haha. The girls are still BMS and the issues are resolved with all but one, but I wouldn’t do any less for her because of that. So you think I could give them the gifts at the shower instead of the night before/day of the wedding?
@Bostongrl25: yes if I were to give them another gift I would do it then!
Post # 6
@EmilyJoy: wow you are going above and beyond! I would just gave the hostesses of my bridal shower a plant and personalized stationary. and then at the rehearsal dinner i gave my bridesmaids a jewelry box and a bracelet….my Maid/Matron of Honor got a gift card and a belt as well.
Post # 7
I would totally roll those into “thanks for being my bridesmaid” gifts. And they sounds great, by the way. I handed out my gifts invidivudally in the days leading up to the wedding (or in one case, the day after the weddin). I liked that I was with each person as they opened their gift and that it could be a bit more private. But I actually almost forgot to give my Maid/Matron of Honor her present because I had been saving it. But it worked out.
Post # 8
@EmilyJoy: Yep for sure, I think they say thank you, both for being your BMs and for hosting and they will be so grateful regardless 🙂
I can say for sure without ever meeting you you’re so not a bridezilla! 😛
Post # 9
@MrsBaldEagle: I think that is a great gift!! And how awesome is personalized stationary!! I would love that! I think those are all great gifts!! I kind of screwed myself bc now they expect gifts all the time haha. So it can backfire!
@JenGirl: I really like the idea of doing the gifts privately. That would be really nice especially if the gifts are all unique, really great idea!
Post # 10
@FutureMrsHallam: haha thank you! It was important to me not to be a Bridezilla! the best lesson on how to be a “good Bride” is be a bridesmaid haha.
Post # 11
your gifts sound very generous. i would just save them for their final gift.
Post # 13
I got my bridesmaids Will You Be My Bridesmaid? gifts. They each got a copy of Breakfast at Tiffany’s dvd (since that is the wedding theme), a to-go wine cup, a Scentsy bar in “Love Story” scent (I am a Scentsy consultant) and I had it all in a Tiffany blue gift bag that said “Holly & Co”
For the actual wedding, I am planning on giving them each a mini Origami Owl locket with their initial and a charm that is personalized to them. (I love to support fellow direct sales reps) and I am also giving them a Thirty One gifts zipper pouch with essentials for the day.
If you WANT to give them gifts early, go for it, but I’d wait, honestly.