(Closed) What to do with shower gifts?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do I do with shower gifts sent in from out of town guests.
    Only bring them to the shower if the guest is attending, if not leave it at home : (11 votes)
    27 %
    Bring them to the shower, others want to see all the gifts you get regardless of gifters attendance : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Don't bring any shipped gifts to the shower at all. : (28 votes)
    68 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
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    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    At the end of the day, do you really want to manage logistics? Those gifts were conveniently sent to your home. Why go through the trouble of carrying extra gifts out (and risking the chance of leaving it behind), and then bringing them back home again?

    Sure, I guess it’s kind of nice to show everyone what you recieved, but do you think any one really cares?

    Post # 3
    Member
    1179 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    BWLE:  The worst part of attending a shower is ooohhing and aaahhing over gifts, most of which the bride has picked out. I wouldn’t bring more to the party when they were conveniently shipped to your home.

    Post # 4
    Member
    464 posts
    Helper bee

    I made a list of things that were sent to my house and said a quick thank you at the end of the gift opening, especially if they or a close relative were in attendance. “Thank you to Stacy, who sent a lovely vase to our home. And a thank you to (DH’s aunt) who generously purchased our cookware for us.”

    Post # 7
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    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d assume they had it delivered to you for convenience’s sake, so you bringing it to the shower defeats that purpose. Just send a thank-you, and if they’re at the shower, thank them verbally, as well.

    Post # 8
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    BWLE:  For my baby shower, we had a few gifts shipped to the house, and we brought the smaller ones (not the big playyard) unopened, to the shower to open with everyone. 

    Post # 9
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    4036 posts
    Honey bee

    A few years ago my cousin visited my mother, who promptly gave her a couple boxes to give to her daughter, the bride to be. They were two sets of china. The cousin decided to take them to the shower, instead. The bride asked for and got 8 sets, so there were 8 boxes, of the same thing. I had no idea why my cousin didn’t give it to her daughter, the next time she saw her, as my mother intended. Watching 8 boxes of the same thing get opened was mind-numbing. And showers aren’t that exciting to begin with. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    233 posts
    Helper bee

    I had a ton of gifts sent to my house by people who are attending the shower, which is tomorrow!  I am only bringing one place setting of fine china, one place setting of everyday china, the kitchen aid mixer, and a beautiful serving platter to display.  These gifts were purchased by my grandmothers and aunts and sent the house with the purpose of having them displayed.  This was the plan the whole time.  I also have a TON of other gifts from people who will be there tomorrow and I think it would be ridiculous to have to bring them all to the shower and bring them all home again in addition to the gifts I am receiving tomorrow.  It is my belief that if they wanted their gift opened in front of everyone and shown off, they should have brought it themselves to the shower. If they sent a gift to the house, I am just assuming that they didn’t think it was important to show off their gift. 

    Post # 11
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    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    BWLE:  any gifts i received at home, i opened and then sent a thank you note immediatwly. No point in bringing them to the shower to open. Most of the time its sent to your house because 1) the person is not coming or 2) its too big a gift to bring, so for your conveinence and theirs, they shipped it to your house 🙂

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