(Closed) What to do with toddler who wont stay in her bed all night?!

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

One of my friends has to take her toddler back to bed and lay her down and then go to sleep there on the floor of the room until the toddler is fast asleep. Then she goes back to bed. She says it’s getting better. I’d give thise duty to your husband since you are pregnant.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have this same problem with my 2 year old! so tehse are helpful ideas for me too! thanks

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can tell you what my mom did. She loves to tell this story.

I used to climb in bet with her so when she wanted it to stop she gave me a count down on a calender. Each day she would say “You have 2 more days to sleep with me and then you have to stay in your own room”

Then on the first day of the “new routine” she would carry me back to my room when I came to her bed. Every. Single. Time. She said it took three days. The first night she returned me to her bed 36 times. Yes, seriously 36. The second it took her about 10 times. The third, 2 times. After that I never tried to climb in bed with her again.

She didnt scold me or yell at me. Just repeated “Three Meers. I love you, but you cant sleep in my room anymore. I will see you in the morning. Good night” So I would know its not a punishment, but just a change of routine.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsBoomBoom:  Honestly, what I had to do, was just sacrifice sleep in order to keep getting up to put my son back in his room. I made the mistake of co-sleeping too for too long and when his dad and I split, it wasn’t really safe to co-sleep anymore (no bumper on each side) so he had to learn to sleep in his room. It took YEARS. YEARS, I TELL YOU, to get him to sleep in his own bed. But he’s 5 now and he knows he has to sleep in his own bed.

It sucks but you just have to keep getting up, putting her back in her bed, over and over if you have to. There’s no magic “cure” or method or treatment or anything. It really boils down to, “Mommy loves you, you’re safe here, this is your bed, you have to sleep here, not with mommy. Here. In your bed.” and sticking to it. She’s likely going to cry and throw a fit but trust me, it’s worth it. Just keep reassuring her she’s safe and loved.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My sister didn’t quite have this problem, but my (at the time) 2 year old nephew kept waking her and my BIL up early every morning…like 5 in the morning.  She ended up buying him a clock, and telling him he could play in his room until 6:30, and then he could come out after that.  He was/is good with numbers, so he was able to tell the time on the clock, and it was pretty successful.  They also sell clocks for toddlers that change color when they’re allowed to get up for the day.

I know this isn’t quite your situation, as he wasn’t getting up in the middle of the night like your daughter, but it could be worth a try.

In any case, you’re probably better off listening to @ThreeMeers:  🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

That’s easy all you have to do is ignore her.    Explain it’s not punishment just something new and if she’s a good girl you’ll pick something up for her the next day.  If she misbehaves don’t get her anything and ignore her until she gets bored and goes to bed but if she’s good make sure you mention it when you first see her in the morning.  If you have an old stuff animal that you use to sleep with as a child you could give her it and tell her how it use to sleep with you so that she still has that attachment to you.  I say ignore her because she’s probably doing it to get your attention and you don’t want her to grow up craving bad attention.  She needs to learn that good attention is the only attention she should ever want.

 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

duct tape?

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