(Closed) What to do with two best friends?!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I was apart of a triangle besties situation where I was the one not chosen as the maid of honor and to this day it pisses me off! lol! I said I didnt care to be polite and not upset anyone but guess what I DO CARE! lol! I mean I knew the bride since we were kids and the 3 of us didnt all become best friends until middle school so whats up with that! This was over 10 years ago so see what commotion this causes! Tread carefully!! lol!  

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would go with 2 maids of honor. You will almost definitely hurt someone’s feelings if you only pick one Maid/Matron of Honor.

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have no maids of honor. Two MoH is way too much fussiness for a casual wedding.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

make them both co-maids of honor. If you pick one, the other will think (know?) that you like the other one just a teeny bit better. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i’ve got two best friends – one is a maid of honour, one is a matron of honour 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

frogprincess:  I’m having 2 MOH’s. My sister and my cousin. My sister will stand first, and cousin behind her. But regardless, they both mean the same to me and I couldn’t decide between them, so I picked them both.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

frogprincess:  i have 2 best friends…but luckily one of them was married and one was single when i got married so i had a matron and a maid. worked out great! if that had not been the case, i would have probably just not had a Maid/Matron of Honor at all, so as to not hurt feelings 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have 2 Maids of Honor. I had 3 girls and all of them were my Maid/Matron of Honor: my sister and bff were Maids and my other bff was Matron (married with a baby).

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

frogprincess:  I have a couple of notes.

1. you say you’re having a small casual wedding, but want to ask 8 of your friends to stand with you. Even if some of them decline, you have to be prepared for all of them accepting, and 8 is a lot.

2. You have 2 people that you really want to be in a place of honor.

I would just cut the bridal party and have those two be your two attendants. You can call them bridesmaids or maids of honor, but if there’s just two of them, then it gives them the distinction tha they are the most important to you.

I decided to choose a sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and friends and my other sister as my bridesmaids.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I would either have two Maid/Matron of Honor and the rest as bridesmaids. Or just have everyone as bridesmaids and not have a Maid/Matron of Honor.

I don’t really think it matters whether the wedding is casual or not, you should honour the girls you want in the way you want.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I’m not having one. The one who is more traditional will stand next to me and the partier will sit next to me at dinner. I felt like they would appreciate these places.

My mom is planning the shower with help from all girls.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had two maids of honor and it worked out beautifully. My wedding was not as casual as yours, but not super formal, and no one batted an eye about two maids of honor. (Nor would I have cared if they did.) I say choose to have two or none. Picking one could lead to some seriously hurt feelings. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Either have no maid of honour or make both of them maids of honour! I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor, just two bridesmaids

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

frogprincess:  Either have two Maid/Matron of Honor or none and just make everyone bridesmaids

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